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Well i've had a long battle though the courts to find out if my ex partner was having my child, its been a difficult battle but i've found out i have a 7 month old little girl.
my questions are, whats next? im going back to court in jan some time to sort out visitation rights, im not on my daughters birth cirt and i've only been able to see her once since she was born (not my decision).
im going to see her again next month, so i would of seen her twice by the next court date.
Does anyone know what sort of rights i have to join custody? my daughter lives 250 miles away from me, i really am not sure what to do, i would love to move there but at the same time i want her to spend time with my family where i live so they can have some sort of bond, im really in a pickle and could do with some adivce.
I was thinking about trying to have my daughter for 2 weeks on and 2 weeks off, but im not sure what the court would agree upon, i never knew my daughter was my daughter until a week ago, but i had an idea she was despite what i was told, so it wasn't my decision not go and see her.
any advice appreciated!
Hi Matthew,
With you saying you are going back to Court i take it you have filed a C100 application?
I think logically, one of the first things a Court would look at is your gaining Parental Responsibility. If you are not on the birth certificate then you do not have it.
In terms of your rights to joint custody, i strongly urge that given your daughters age, any "rights" relating to joint custody will have to be put on hold. Equally, the amount of Contact you have had since her birth is not something a Court will dismiss. They would consider you have only seen her a couple of times. As such Joint Custody (if practical) is a long way off.
Given your daughter is so young, a Court will most likely order that you have Contact with Mum present for a set period of time. Given the distance you have to travel, overnight stays may not be practical i'm afraid.
Remember to take this slowly, there are some aspects that Courts will look into a great deal. I would recommend that if you are prepared to travel, trying to sort or agree something that for Xmonths you travel up every weekend or every other weekend for several hours to be hands on. Be aware however that sometimes, matters can make this type of thing difficult/impossible (i.e. a job loss)
Hi cro
I've asked the cclc to pop on and see if there's any advice they can give.
hI Cro, i think you can go to court and ask for a seek and find order so they will locate her , so you can serve papers on her to have a DNA test and then get contact
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