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I am recently separated and my solicitor received a letter by my wife's solicitor asking me to vacate the house and that she will be seeking a non molestation order. The letter goes on to accuse me of domestic abuse. I have never done anything that could ever be construed as domestic abuse. Since the letter my wife and I are now on speaking terms (still separated) and have agreed to proceed amicably. She just told me that her solicitor advised her to use the allegation of domestic abuse as a tactic to get me to vacate the home.
Surely this can not be ethical or even legal? Domestic abuse is an enormously serious issue and how can a lawyer use this as a bargaining chip. What recourse do I have? This can't be right.
I don't believe a lawyer can knowingly make a false statement, or recommend that his client does so. I'd have a word with your solicitor about this, but in the meantime, if you can work amicably with your ex, that's the main thing to concentrate on.
Thank you and I completley agree on the main thing. But if he has surely he has to be censured for this?
It's something the Law Society would not take kindly to - the problem you have is proving it as that would require your ex to give evidence against him. Ultimately, it would be diverting you from what is really important right now.
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