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Hi Guys
My ex filed a non molestation order against me. Went to court and I accepted it on the grounds of no findings etc as I didn’t want to cause any further stress or upset
A couple of days later, I have an email account I send stuff to myself with my thoughts / feelings etc. I accidentally sent this email to her instead of my account !
I immediately sent another apologising, asking her to delete it and said I was fully aware of the rules and it would t happen again, and I then called the police myself to advise them what had happened and that it was a genuine mistake.
She has now apparently contacted the police too and made a complaint about it anyway. They want to speak to me and mentioned the CPS and I am really really worried and scared now. It was honestly a genuine mistake and I did everything I could to rectify it immediately - has anyone got any experience in this type of thing ?! Am I likely to be in trouble ?!
What did the email you sent say?
A custodial sentence is unlikely if this is an innocent mistake but it's hard to second guess what will happen.
It was my thoughts about how things were, things I had recognised about myself following her accusations and what I was thinking about the whole situation really.
It was personal to me - granted it had stuff about her in it I guess but really wasn’t intentional!
Would you think it will be viewed as a ‘reasonable excuse’ !! I’m only human - made a mistake 🙁
If I'm honest with you, I don't think the police or a Court would buy the "it was an accident" story.
I think your best explanation (and one you shouldn't elaborate on) is "it was a stupid mistake and was certainly not intended to cause any distress".
Get into long an convoluted arguments about how easy it is or isn't to put her name in the recipient box and they will take you to the cleaners.
Do you have copies of similar emails you've sent to yourself? If so how many and going back how far?
By the way, you are looking at TWO breaches here.
Even if you get away with saying the first email was a mistake, the second wasn't.
I am wholly against these ridiculous non-molestation orders but they are what they say they are ORDERS. You breached I'm afraid.
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