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My relationship with my ex is strained to say the least. This is despite my best efforts to sort things out at the start of the relationship.
She is very temperamental. I see my kids regularly, I pay for them and look after them very well during my time with them. As my ex can be/has been abusive both verbally and by text i suggested we had minimum contact. She followed this up with a solicitors letter stating that ALL contact must go through her solicitor. I agreed to this although I stated it was very unworkable.
I provided the children with mobile phones so we could maintain contact during the time I don't see them. When i have arrived to collect them I will text to say i am outside to avoid confrontation. Today I have received a court order to attend court regarding a court order to prohibit me contacting my daughter in respect of adult disputes. To clarify the kind of contact she means is for example............please could you remind, ****** (her brother) to pack his football boots, or I am outside darling, ready when you are.
I love my kids and I am working very hard to support them and offer a stable, supportive environment. For reason only known to herself it appears my ex is desperate for me to be in contact with her. I dont want this. She is very demeaning and antagonistic. Its better for the children that we do not argue.
I am honestly considering throwing in the towel. I can't do much more than I am and I am getting no where. As hard as it will be to carry out I am considering severing all ties with my children. Any advice on where I go from here please.
Hi There,
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I think if it were me i would transcibe all of the messages that you have sent and also contact your mobile opperator and ask them for itimised bills so that you can show that the messages that you have transcribed are all that have been sent, this would also be the same for your ex so that you can show that you have been civil throughout and that you have only messaged your children for things that are relevant.
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I wouldn't throw in the towel yet, go through court and do what you can to sort things out, if you do throw in the towel it needs to be completely the last resort.
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GTTS
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