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Residence Order (s8), Specific Issue Order (s8) and Prohibited Steps Order (s8),My ex is seeking this,I'm new to all this,I cant get legal aid,She has gone through a charity who are giving her advice. She's an alcoholic with with emotional problems,I took my son when she had an episode. The courts issued an order for me to return him to her. She has stated that I'm violent,drug user.
How on Earth is this possible,why is there no help for fathers and finally what can I do?
Hi, First of all keep calm - we can help you.
Make sure you comply with the order & return him - any conflict will be used against you.
There will be a hearing date set on the court order - which you must attend - normally within 2 weeks.
Between now & then - you need to do as much reading as possible - there are sticky posts about what happens next/ court processes. Get some advice from CAB or go to see a solicitor.
You need to decide (A) how to challenge the 3 specific orders.
You need to complete an acknowledgement form & respond to her claims; trying to get the order suspended at the next hearing, if possible.
Then (B) you need to decide what you want to do: -
Would you be seeking to make a contact arrangement order which is an application for residency i.e. you looking after the child full-time or maybe split between you/ ex (shared residency) or contact order (your ex has the child full time) which specifies which the times you will have contact.
If so, complete C2 Form - which ties your application to your ex.
With your ex having alcoholic problems it would be also in your favour to complete C1A Forms - raising your concerns.
Lots of help in this forum; wishing you best of luck.
This process will take a long time to resolve - but keep positive.
Thank you.
How long ago did you receive notification from the court to return your son? Does your son have a Social Worker?
If you are on a low income or benefits you will be entitled to an exemption from the court fee and you can claim this with form EX160a. It would normally cost £90 to submit a C2 application.
It might help if you go to the court office and fill out the forms whilst there. As Loving Dad says you will need form C2 and C1a, and the EX160a if it applies.
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