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Hello everyone, I'm not a Dad but an estranged Granny trying to help my son get information as he's sort of burnt out with it all to the point, literally, of collapse. He's been signed off work now so I'm trying to take some of the pressure off.
Can you help with these questions please?:-The Judge has ordered an S7. Do cafcass simply phone or do they actually see you face to face? If they see you do they come to your home or do you go to them? His ex has lied about everything - shock - but as I've read on here before apparently nothing should be said against her. How do you get across that everything that she has said is lies unless you say she's a blo**y bare faced liar? Presumably he will get a copy of the cafcass report prior to going back to court?
The Judge has also ordered a police report so does my son get a copy? There isn't anything in it as although his ex alleged stuff the police interviewed him and did nothing as they obviously knew her allegations were empty, but does he get to see it?
How about medical reports? Will he get copies? The Judge has ordered one on everyone so will he see them all? His ex alleged he has mental issues, which he doesn't, and the Judge ordered medical reports on him but also on her and on the children. She is saying the children are in poor health and vulnerable (not true) so he cant/wont ever see them without one of her family being present. Will he see all the reports so he can draw up his next position statement including health facts?
I do appreciate you reading this look forward to your answers. I have been speaking to my son about this forum and reading a lot of the great replies to his and other peopes questions. What a fantastic site, thank you for all of your help.
Hi Granny
No problem with you being a granny on here, we have a few others I believe. I'm not too hot on the legal stuff, so hopefully others with more experience can help you with your questions. Might also be worth contacting the Coram's CHildren's legal advice centre - http://www.childrenslegalcentre.com - they are able to give some professional legal advice as long as your son isn't currently represented by a solicitor.
Hi there
Court proceeedings, especially in family court can be extremely stressful and I can fully understand why he is struggling.
An S7 report is a lot more indepth and can't be done by telephone. It's face to face and usually in each parties home and depending on what the court have asked for, the children will also be talked to, age appropriately.
If your son is questioned about things that the mother has alleged, he can of course say something like, no that didn't happen, calmly and without getting angry... leaving out the ... she's a [censored] bare faced liar bit!
I would have thought the police and medical reports will form part of the S7 report, but generally speaking, anything that the courts rely upon is usually shared with the parties involved.
Try and get your son to have some time out from the worry of the court process, theres no benefit from overthinking or trying to think too far ahead, better to deal with each step at a time and not worry about things yet to come.
So looking after the basics, eating properly and getting enough sleep are really important and will help him keep his strength up for the journey ahead.
All the best
Thank you for the sound advice. Looking after yourself is so important and my Son is doing that now, after losing 2 stone in as many months and having to be signed off work with stress. He took an undertaking, although he was determined not to originally and now is having doubts - he took it because the ex parte non-mol would have lasted as long as the process to contest it, so he decided better to get rid of it by taking an undertaking. Hasn't seen the children and it wasn't even discussed at the hearing although he had put in a C100 AND a C2 as the court told him to, and this was supposed to be what the hearing was for, alongside the non-mol. They also didn't mention the ex parte prohibited steps order, so this must still be in place. He was so stressed he didn't even think about it at the time, now doesn't know what to do about it.
Anyway I have tried to make a donation as we appreciate your help so much but it came back as "Sorry we don't recognise your message". I sent DAD10 then the amount to 70070 but when I tried again I got the same message. Any clues?
Many thanks as always.
Granny
I'm going to send you a private message.
I'm not sure about what went wrong with the donation procedure, I'll mention it to Admin.
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