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Thanks for the advice guys. Ive just phoned mediation but theyre closed till next monday. Typical! Ive downloaded all the forms and will be researching this site for more information. Will keep you all updated. Once again thank you for your help.
My ex also used to say her ex abused her and me being the kind person I am used to comfort her about that, she had also claimed to me she was sexually abused by a family member which turned out to be [censored]. Now shes with another bloke and suddenly I'm the one who abused her. He will be the next to be accused. What makes me angry is all the false allegations are soo see through and unbeliable and the story changes everytime but Cafcass take the view of it may have happened and because of that we have to take it seriously. However when I hit back with my own allegations I've always been told show us the evidence. How does that work? Surely the same applies to me ex? Provide evidence? The point I have always made to Cafcass which they never seem to get is i'm asking the court for weekend contact with my child at best. So all the allegations mother has made sort of dont really matter but my allegations carry much more weight and are more serious as my son is with her 24/7. Plus the fact my allegations are far more believeable as she has a criminal record for violence and has sought helo from gp for her violence yet Cafcass laugh at my allegations? Good luck mate your gonna need it. This system isn't a fair one and you start at a disadvantage simply because your a bloke.
I understand your sense of injustice Dec but I would like to add that as many bad experiences as dads have with the authorities, there are many good results too....it's a pity there isn't continuity of process, but we have had plenty of successes here. There is light at the end of the tunnel, courts do fall on the side of caution initially, but when all the reports and risk assessments are done and there are no safeguarding issues then contact is a realist prospect.
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