[Solved] Hearing date.

If he doesnt show it will look extremely bad for him and they will make an order in his absence and it will not look good for him in th edirections hearing if he doesnt turn up for that one another order will be made in his absence 🙂

Thanks Slim

Its a 30 min hearing this time (for the prohibited steps) and then an hour for the first directions hearing. I know it wont look good for him, will the courts end it there and then in my favour or will he be given a chance?

As predicted. No show.
Prohibited steps order to remain in force until further order.
Judge didn't seem best pleased and asked if I was surprised, said I wasn't.
Next hearing is the first directions hearing.
Onwards.....

All gravy 🙂

It's a tough one, what should I expect at the next hearing?
I want the kids to see him, he said he isn't bothering. I also want for him to step up and stop being so horrible to them and using them, he's hurt them.
Do I suggest certain contact or leave it to te court to decide?

The court can't order him to see the kids or to treat them better. I would let the court process take its course, if reports are done then everyone will get a better idea of what is best for the children.

I've begged and pleaded with my ex to be civil for the sake of our daughter but to no avail she just gets worse and worse so I think you will be flogging a dead horse, let the courts do their thing it will probs draw you into more conflict with your ex if you try and reason.

The direction hearing is exactly what it says on the tin the Judge will Direct what is going to be done and how the case may move forward he or she may direct you both to do a spips course, ask for cafcass to do a report ect ect it nothing to worry about 🙂

Thanks.
Im hoping they will just request an ammendum? to the already existing section 7 from the last case, fingers crossed it will be over and done with as quickly as possible 🙂

It's a tough one, what should I expect at the next hearing?
I want the kids to see him, he said he isn't bothering. I also want for him to step up and stop being so horrible to them and using them, he's hurt them.
Do I suggest certain contact or leave it to te court to decide?

It may be worth considering that contact with him really isn't in the children's best interests, because from the sound of it, he isn't going to be bothered in looking after their needs, certainly emotionally. Maybe tell him you will facilitate contact if he makes an effort, but that he will have to approach you when he is ready to do so on a reliable basis.

Hi Crocs.

As has already been said, if he doesn't show to the directions hearing then the Judge will make a decision in his absence (and I would expect it wouldn't be favourable to your ex)

I'd also agree with actd (I seem to be doing that alot recently!) regarding contact, and whether it's really the best thing for the kids. If he can't be bothered to turn up to court to even consider contact, i'd be concerned about his commitment to look after the children should contact actually take place...

If you're determined for contact to take place, then I'd be inclined to suggest starting with indirect contact and going from there. Once regular indirect contact is maintained, progress from there. Not only does it show he's actually willing to make some effort, if he doesn't it will have less impact on the children.

BD

Thanks.
I'm just wondering what to say to CAFCASS etc? I imagine they'll ring him too before the first hearing? Although they didn't bother to contact me when he issued his application!
Will it be at the first hearing that they make a desicion if he doesn't show?