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Probably a bit of a vent.
Court order states handover in Tesco car park but ex insists in standing inside Tesco on full display at the entrance under the CCTV cameras which annoys me as our children are on "display".
Today our children and I stood in the porch area looking at pumpkins but the ex refused to come over and we had to go to her.
She does this however she has come to the house and made a scene in front of our children such that I called the Police.
Whats she thinking?
Regards,
Dave
In my experience anything related to handover abuse is a great sign of jealousy that she knows the kids are going to have a great time with you. It's just one step from giving you grief to starting to tell the kids that they are in the wrong for enjoying their time at yours- which for most kids seems to be the point at which they start to question their mother themselves!
My ex can't let me leave after i drop the kids off without saying something horrible in front of the children, this weekend it was denigrating my job as i'm no longer teaching in a private school (due to mine closing!) I rarely say anything back but often chuckle on the way home- for this one it was easy, how can she say my job is rubbish when she hasn't had a job in five years? In fact the closest to a job she has come is when she lied that she had a job (that I easily found out didnt actually exist) for a few months last year when she wanted an excuse for more nights out on the [censored] 🙂
Thanks to you both....our children have a great time when we are together.
She claims DV perpetrated by me which is untrue, she admits she has perpetraded it against me, and it seems to be part of her charade but it makes me cringe that our children are made to stand in front of the whole world for handover but she seems to enjoy it. Maybe a control thing as well.
I just have to suck it up.
Regards,
Dave
Hello,
A small positve might be that since the handover is recorded on CCTV any of your ex's nonsence is being recorded. And of course it is only you, your ex and the children know why you are there.
Brian
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