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Hi Kenny
There are no hard and fast rules when it comes to courts deciding handovers and travel. I think it's good to have some suggestions for whatever route is decided though. It really will come down to the individual judge.
From what i read elsewhere as Yoda says it’s pretty much down to the Judge and how flexible with contact travel your ex would be…unlikely by the sounds of it mate!
My ex knows that i would walk to the summit of Mount Everest to see my (child) and she has pretty much has made me do it these last 7yrs!
I suppose everything boils down to how bad do you want to see your kids and what would you do to get to that point?
We all have different ideas and what is reasonable….but our ex’s seem to ignore the needs of the children over vengeance against us either leaving them or whatever they hate us for.
Forget your feelings in all this and what your ex’s is getting away with that you’re having to do more than her…..the kids are priority not you or her having to travel more than the other....make the most of what time you get with your kids....one day tehy'll not want to come becuase they are going out with their friends etc....
A little of my current partner’s problems with her ex….
I’ve been seeing my current partner for just over a year now, her ex is the total opposite to me, doesn’t particularly want to have his 14yr old for over nights as it “interferes with his weekends” and in his words “all (child) does is sit in his room and play on his xbox, so it’s hardly worth me seeing (child)” but does want his CSA payments to go down so will have (child) but on his terms…when he want’s and changes it to suit his social life!
Seriously! [censored]….i haven’t said anything to him as it’s not my place to…
I have spoken to (child) and asked why do you just play on the xbox all the time you’re at your dads? (child’s) response “dad is boring, he just want’s to watch sport on tv or go to the pub and leaves me with Aunty (j) or says he’s skint and can’t afford to take me anywhere and to go play on my xbox” Seriously [censored]!! I’d love to shake the idiot by the shoulders and tell him my story and tell him how lucky he is having an ex like her who wants him to spend time with his (child)!
Just to add to the comment about him saying he can’t afford to do anything with (child) when he has (child)
The guy smokes around 20 cigarettes/day and goes to the pub twice a week (darts & dominoes etc…) plus Sunday sessions! ….yes yes…it’s his prerogative i know…
i’m not being funny here but if he really is too skint then just cutting down on the cigarettes to 10/day would save him somewhere around £20-£25/week and with that extra £40-£50 per fortnight not to mentions cutting out a few pints a week….he could then take (child) somewhere for a day out or meal etc…
Rant over….not aimed at you KMac
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