[Solved] GOT IT ALL WRONG......DEVASTATED 🙁

Thanks Guys, I feel loads better today and I think I'm going to concentrate on getting this drug test sorted, the letter from my doc and sort this spips course out for the end of the month and once all is done and my negative drugs test get filled I'm going to start asking for contact with cafcass.

I'm absolutely exhausted today I think it's all caught up with me and my 4 days of djing and partying have took there toll lol

I think it's time I took a step back as I'm letting it all rule my life and I'm still letting my ex control me by being stressed all the time, I've found out she is being the way she is as she's trying to make me commit suicide or just walk away and there's no way I'm doing either, I get reqular updates, pictures and videos of my girls ect so it could be worse.

Many thanks for everyones help advice and support it means alot.

Slim 🙂

How does she contact you? That might be the first place to take control.

I've changed my number again for the 6th time this year so I've got a bit of rest bite again, I'm really good friends with her sister so I'm getting updates about my girls through her, I'm also a father figure for her three children too which is cool as they all come round on a weekend and we have a ball so I still feel like a dad in a way 🙂

Get a second phone - use one for her to contact you, and one for day to day use. That way you can control when you switch on and look at messages etc. If your phone is a half decent android, there are a couple of things you can do with it that might make your life easier. I don't have knowledge of iPhone or Windows phones to comment on them.

In 6 months she has never phoned me up to talk about the girls, she phones and leaves the phone next to my baby just to upset me, she constantly say for me to slit my wrists, do everyone a favour and kill myself, accuses me of being a drug addict, it's just constant abuse abuse abuse, I really can't function at work or get on my life having her say these things day in day out thats why I'd rather not hear from her, she's just trying to push me over the edge or leave the area.

A section 7 report takes roughly about 6 weeks. However before they even commence that I would imagine they would want all the available evidence so police reports drug test results etc. When Cafcass do finally get around to doing their report they will meet with you and then also may supervise a visit if the judge has ordered it.

The only advice I can give is sit tight and just go with the flow. After all my court hearings there always seems to be a wait of 6-8 weeks which at the time seems like a lifetime. My child was 5 months old when I started my process and now he's two.

All i can advise is carry on with life as best as you can keep yourself busy, find a new hobby, wstch some box sets etc and before you know it the next hearing will be upon you.

Yeah man I'm just going to have to like it and lump it, I'm going back to working 7 days a week for a couple of months, I've also got my dj'ing and photography to keep me occupied.

Cafcass are going to do an observation so at least I will get to see the girls at some point, once the drug test comes back I'm going to start asking for contact I've never known such a useless shower of [censored] they are so one sided unprofessional and assume everything.

I just wish I lived nearer my family I've got no one near where I live I'm only here for my girls, I've got a good social life and started back dj'ing ect but I can't really talk to anyone.

...you've got us Slim! 😉

When the girls see you I bet they will be thrilled! I'm sure the CAFCASS report won't fail to see how close you all are.

That is true! I don't know what I would have done without this site it doesn't bear thinking about!

Yeah I'll prove to the Cafcass for sure they're using my step daughters disability to stop me seeing her and are saying I can't look after her when I've virtually brought her up sinnce she was born, I don't see her having a disability shes just normal to me, she got dealt a bad pack of cards from birth and they are using it to stop me seeing her how is that in her best interests?

As for my daughter the absolute idiots are saying as shes so young she is to used to her mother so seeing me will freak her out which is complete bull as I never met her till she was 6 weeks old and she didnt freak out then I'm an absolute natural and she knows I'm her daddy its unreal, My ex was the same with the father of her first daughter and he just ran for the hills.

I've begged him to be part of his girls life over the past 5 years and he's never bothered I've also told him of the abuse she's been suffering because of our ex's drinking, still nothing then when I go for contact he turns up to court trying to stop me!

I took one look at the drunk and c**t in court and though I'm going to have to do what it takes for these girls, I never thought it would be this hard though!