Good news/bad news.

So..after 2 years of court proceedings I had final hearing at the end of November.  Ex has mental health issues and ran off with another woman she met on line,taking the 4 youngest of our 5 children with her, I didn't see them for 6 months and they were turnt into completely diffrent children who were saying they wanted nothing to do with me.

All allegations against me dismissed at fact finding, parental alienation findings made against the ex and a child psychologist was involved.

The psychologist was a disaster ( he didn't even know about the fact finding outcomes as it was not in the court bundle he recived)

Thanks, mostly in part to my barristers questioning of the phycologist and exs behaviour in the Dock, cafcass done a complete about turn and ordered that I get alternative weekends,half holidays,etc etc with weekly contact ( 7 hours every Saturday) until February when the overnights would start.   2 session in when I've took kids to my mums, the ex has messaged to say do I want to have them overnight which of course I bit her hand off for, they had a great time and again a fortnight later.  Since then she has changed her mind again and now saying she wants to stick to court orders and no overnights till February, she is also refusing to let me speak to kids during the week ( court order) and just playing silly buggers and messing the kids up even more.

She is struggling to cope with our oldest daughter (14) and asked me to have her for the week.  The stuff she is letting slip out about what is going on in their home has left me worried to the point I feel social services should be let known but I know if I do that, the ex is going to double down on the alienating.  Court/cafcass have said that if problems arise over orders that we both need to go down the mediation route..

I know it's coming, the stress and aneixty is getting to me but how long do I give it before starting mediation/enforcement papers?  I don't think it will look to good in the eyes of cafcass/ court if I go back within weeks and months of final hearing but she is not playing ball and still messing the kids up..do I have to wait until February.

Lastly, I'd like to thank many of the good fathers on here. I don't post often ( unless it's something I can definitely help with) but the information and advice I've picked up from this forum has been vital, there is some serious legends on here.