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Guys im about to become a father soon ... the things is i have no idea when !
I just know my child is due in january at somepoint !
I have no contact with my ex now for months and im not allowed to even contact her ... long story !
But i have no intention of having any child of mine growing up without his or hers father !
So as soon as i can find out when my child is here im gona be right on to my solicitor to try and get the ball rolling to get some access hopefully sorted out !
The thing is im totally unaware when my child is gona be born but before i broke up with my ex i know the due month was jan 2015 !
Ive tried going on her facebook to try and get a clue but there is nothing at all !
Any suggestions guys ? Not sure when im able to contact my solicitor to let him know im a father again and i now want to fight for access to see my baby !
I had this myself, I had all the sane questions as yourself and I know it's soo frustrating. Luckily for me I was informed by email in the end. First off are you sure that she is pregnant and that there were no complications? My fight still goes on after 3 long years, you need to mentally prepare yourself because from my experience missing rhe first 3 years has beeb torture, for steps, first words, first tooth etc etc. I'm almost at the point now where I'm close to walking away from my proceedings, biased cafcass officer and proceedings going around and around in circles. I wish now I had walked away 3 years ago which woukd have saved me a lot of hurt and trauma. So please just think carefully being proceeding with this. Also I imagine if you were to get access whilst your child is a baby it's likely your acess would be very limited like a few hours a week. Good luck
Yeh mate i can only guess at the stress and pain thats coming my way if i start this fight but i guess like yourself when you were in this position , i cant have my child go without his dad just because my childs so called mother deems me unfit to be a father !
So im gona go for it mate cos its important to me that even if i have to go through the pain and hurt, that at the end of the day my kid is gona know i fought for him or her and then maybe one day the tables will turn 😉
When you find out you need to apply for Parental Responsiblity as I doubt she will put you on the birth cert. form c100 I think
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