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im applying for a shared resident order for my son.is there any information that people can give me on how to make up a statement to the court. what questions i will be asked and what questions i can throw back at them to help my defence.i was told that from the begining of our split they were going to bankrupt me which they have done in the finanical battle which is on going and that they are going to make sure i only see my son every other weekend.its taken me a long time to make my mind up to apply for this order after having a good relationship with my son in the past which i feel was shard care.please feel free to give me all the information.i am not a very good person with word or how to put thing down please help.
Hi there
I've just spotted your post, I have to go out now but I'll come back for a chat about it later...perhaps as I've bumped it up the thread one of the guys will pick up on it and give you some advice.
Shared residency doesn't necessarily mean a 50/50 split. It is a recognition that a child has two homes; one with the mother and one with the father. Shared residency applications are becoming more common and I expect their popularity to grow.
There are a number of factors that a court needs to consider when looking at issues of residency; schooling, home environment, etc
If you no longer have legal representation you can obtain free advice from the Coram Children's Legal Centre (CCLC). There's a link to their website at the foot of this page. You can call them on a freephone number or speak to them via their webchat service. Give them a call and they can talk you through the process.
Why don't you also take a look at Yoji's Guide To representing Yourself In Court? You can find it at the top of the Legal Eagle forum and I think you'll find it incredibly useful.
Don't worry. One step at a time.
FM '70
Hi there
FM'70 has given you some good pointers... Perhaps you could tell us how far along you are with your application, have you filled the forms in yet?
Once you have handed the application into the courts, you will get a date to attend, the length of time you might wait is hard to say as I would think this differs in different areas, but a general rule of thumb is 6-8 weeks I think.
The courts arn't interested in anything except what is best for the child involved so this is the premise that you should speak from. It doesn't help to make nasty or negative comments about the mother, but you can speak about any restrictions or unreasonable rules she may have placed on your contact that you feel is detrimental to the child and prevents you from maintaining the bond with your child.
Have a good read through the other posts on here about applying for contact, theres an awful lot of good advice already given to others about this particular topic. If you come across anything you're not sure about during the process, dont hesitate to ask for advice.
Good luck with everything.
thanks for getting in touch.i have been to medation on monday morning knowing that she would never agree even told the caf caf officer that before she came in.caf caf said this will have to go in front of a judge so two hours later we went in there her barrister ask for a one day trial and judge asked for statements to be sent to the judge and a copy to the other party think hearing date will be 10th november
Have a conversation with the CCLC tomorrow. They'll help you to shape your statement. Also take a peek at Yoji's guide.
On what grounds did the CCLC not want to know? Do you already have legal representation?
they just told me that they could not help in this case.no i donot have legal representation
That's very odd. The only other reason they could possibly have would be if you live in Scotland?
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