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Hi
After some advice please. For the last three years through a court order I have had my twins stay with me 6nights out of every 14. To say things aren't exactly amicable with my ex is a massive understatement. If I have a new gf, I've had two serious relationships in the last three years, the children aren't being looked after properly. If on a very rare occasion I have a few drinks at a family BBQ, again the children aren't being looked after.
Yesterday for the first time in the three years, I was half an hr late picking my children up, she said they were too upset and didn't want to stay with me. I let it go as I didn't want to argue. Today she has informed me, I'm not to pick the children up Thursday (as agreed), as she has contacted social services and the police stating I'm drinking too much alcohol in front of the children. All made up lies, I'm not denying I sometimes, on weekends have a few beers after working hard all week.
I have been to see the police tonight and they said she can't go against a court order and it's ok for me to pick them up Thursday but to contact social services in the morning.
She has now threatened to take me to court and will no doubt make up more lies about me. I love having my twins, provide a safe home, clothe, feed them, take them for great days out and nice holidays.
I'm worried I will have less contact with my twins, any advice please
Hi there
I think you should apply to enforce the order...don't wait for her to put a variation of contact in! As its a breach of an order you don't need to attend mediation first.
Hi
Just like to say thank you for replying, means a lot. So would I have to go back to court to enforce it? Also I'm thinking of going for shared access 50/50 but feel like she is buying the children, as in spoiling them
Also can you explain how enforcing the order works please? I think she may have been in touch with the court already
...to make an application for a variation of contact she would need to attend mediation first. This isn't the case with enforcement.
You would need to submit form C79 along with a copy of the existing court order. I'm not sure of the cost but the court can tell you that. If you are on benefits or a low income you can apply for an exemption and you would need form EX160a for that.
At the bottom of your court order there should be a warning notice about not sticking to what the court has ordered and the fact that there are penalties for this. It is this that enables you to apply for enforcement.
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