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My view is never give up. Just throwing in the towel and giving up isn't an option. Children are a life long commitment. If you feel bad then imagine how you will feel in years to come not knowing your children or anything about them. How will that affect you? Can you deal with that or will it just eat away at you? All you will have to rely on is that one day your children may want to find you and that's only if others haven't got to them first to dissuade them.
Yes it may be unbelievably trying in every sense right now but some people may be hoping you do quit to make life easier for them. They rely on these tactics to break you with no thought or consideration for any child involved. Such people always put themselves and money before kids.
Even a "cooling off" period away from all this may affect the momentum you've built up. Dependent on how long we're talking some people may perceive it as a climbdown or you may shift your momentum onto them if they sense they've got to you. The court process takes long enough anyway without you adding more time onto that. Instead make this your project or main priority and keep talking to friends and family to vent your frustrations. Keep your mind and body both busy and active. I don't think there's ever been as much emphasis on mental health and wellbeing these days and there will be any amount of advice and resources to call upon.
... As you can see, there are some strong feelings about this issue.
Only you can make the final decision, we can try and support you as much as we can, if you decide to keep on going.
All the best and keep talking.
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