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Hello everyone,
I'm new here but I'm freaking out. My girlfriend (ex!) and I have agreed to separate. We get along reasonably but since we have decided to split she's gone nuts. We have been planning to move to a new area individually, but now she's saying she'll just leave with my son tomorrow. Can she do that? Can I stop her? Is she allowed to do that or can either person do that? What can I do? Call the cops? Take notes ? What will help? I had hoped to avoid the courts but she's just gone crazy.
Help!
What can I do to stop her? Is she allowed to just pick up the boy and leave?
Hi and welcome
Unfortunately, she can leave and take your son with her. Hopefully if she does decide to leave, you can both agree on what will happen going forward with regard to the time you and your son spend together.
Emotions are running high for all of you right now and I understand it's a very difficult time, many of our members have been through similar situations and will hopefully add their advice.
The best advice I can give right now is try to talk as rationally as you can, ask her if there is anything you can do to make the situation easier and if she is willing to discuss what is best for your son.
You can't call the police, they won't get involved in a civil matter and there wouldn't be anything they can do.
Try to be patient and keep talking.
good luck
I'm probably posting this after the event, but in any case, I would allow a couple of days for it to settle slightly, and then see if you can arrange to go somewhere for a coffee and try to talk about a parenting plan - emotions are going to be raw still, so at all costs, try to avoid getting drawn into an argument or a blame game, it's now all about what is best for your son and how you can both best achieve that.
This might help http://dadinfo.splittingup-putkidsfirst.org.uk/home
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