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Hi All,
I am after some advise regarding access to see my daughters.
I have been divorced for 10 years and have 2 daughters with her. I continued with access for the 8 years, but over the last 2 years access has been very very limited to say the least. She does not respond texts, phone calls etc etc. Whenever i do get through and ask can i see the girls the weekend, she says no, we are away, or no they are busy, or no they do not want to see you.
Before i go down the expense of trying something through the legal route, can anyone advise if they have experienced something similar and offer a next step solution?
Thanks
Ant
Hi There,
This is very common and seems like your ex is just calling the shots.
How old are your duaghters?
If you left 10 years ago they are almost certainly at an age that they would have a say in seeing you if you did go down the legal route.
I would say first though to try family mediation, thry first with just you and your ex and then maybe see if your duaghters can attend too, (depandant on age) try and get the family back talking again and then go from there.
If mediation doesn't work the legal route is always there for a back up, write to your ex (recorded delivery) explaining that you aren't going to walk away from your duaghters lives and that you want to be able to see them. Invite your ex to mediation to discuss the girls and you seeing them.
Be mindful though that you have'nt been in thier lives for a little while and they may be a little hostile towards you as you don't know what reasons they ahve been given for you not seeing them.
Darren
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