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Hi Blue,
it is a typical terrible situation to be in. What I would say is whenever you are offered time take it.....Its almost like a freebie. Formalise it and then use that as the platform to start negotiating from. Ex's who hold the card will no doubt become progressively more bitter and whilst their emotions are somewhat jaded and all over the place you need to re-establish contact.
Dont get wound up with solicitors, CSA etc....just concentrate on your son.
In a word clearly she is not being reasonable. A parent who equally loves his child assuming not obviating circumstances should have equal time. However we are all too aware this is not the case. It is important to view this from your sons perspective he - ought to have equal access to seeing his parents.
The issue of alternate weekends will depend I guess on how time was spent prior and both parties work circumstances. You have a case for suggesting 1-2 days each week (as a start!) if you are concerned about the gap of potentially going 2 weeks without seeing him oweing to his age.
BW
Boyce
Thanks Boycie,
Good advice, thank you.
Had an estate agent round earlier, putting the home up for rent. Probably the best, out of the limited options, that are available to me. I'll take any positive at the moment.
Feel a lot better today, spoke to The ex last night, she's still being nasty/crazy about things. But rising above it all now, I've said what I needed to say to her. Whether she listens/understands or not is down to her. I'm going to be the bigger person about it now, she can say what she wants, but I'm just going to get on with it.
My son will realise what she's done at some point. She can't hide it forever. He knows I love him and I've just got to make his time with me as happy as possible, which is what I've been doing. When I was round my parents the other day, the ex and her father came round to pick him up. My son said (while we were all in the same room) "Not like Mummy, like daddy".
Tried to hand him over to my ex, but he wouldn't let go of me. She didn't even react, which I found strange. For a 2 and a half year old to say that already might say a lot. God knows what she thought, it must have hurt her, but she didn't show it. Everyone heard it, including her father. I felt awkward.
Just got to bide my time, at the very least, I'll be able to try to get on with my life for the time being. Over pay on the mortgage, get some money behind me and see what happens.
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