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She has also said in the Cafcass report she is happy for me to see kids under supervision surely she can't backtrack on that when she has said it in her report but it seems she will try too
Update, went well for me. She has to do a statement with any issues she has the court basically dismissed them i have supervised access with family slowly building up in terms of time but this is down to one of the kids having a personal issue. I have had contact off cafcass to confirm the case is closed. Back to court in the New Year i presume to sort out final arrangements it went a lot lot better than i expected.
Thats great to hear Cafcass are leaving the process. Hopefully this all gets sorted out for you at next hearing.
What are they likely to do at the next hearing? i am thinking they will sort out a order for times and days etc for visits and school holidays. I asked for 50% custody at the beginning what am i likely to come away with? i suppose what im asking is what is the standard? the judge mentioned every other weekend but no mention on midweek or school hols but that was just a quick example that doesn't seem a lot. I also presume once i have it in writing what nights etc i can then calculate how many nights staying with me and get the CMS to adjust the payments accordingly?
thank you
hi,
before Cafcass left the case, did they make any recommendations for contact? you can do a position statement, clearly listing what kind of arrangements you think will benefit the children. e.g 50/50. you could propose something like you have kids 3 days on, 3 days off. 1 week on, 1 week off? another way is you have kids mon, tue night. ex has them wed and thu, and you alternate the weekends. it's better to be very specific in your statements, as it would be a real pain if you had to return to court in future because a dispute broke out over what happens during school holidays,xmas, birthdays etc. if you live close to kids and their school, you could tell them that you can easily manage the school runs and can do mid-week overnights.
after this is over they will give you a copy of the court order. you can just send it to CMS through your self service account and tell them to update the shared care for your case.
@obsession1 Could you point me to those courses? I may start doing those too. 😀
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