[Solved] First Court Date Tomorrow

I spoke with Cafcass at the beginning of 2011 they were asked by court to produce a report (not sure what section it was) all I know is that because my ex then made allegations it took me a year to eventually get the full disclosure on the allegations and Cafcass only got limited disclosure.
The report does look very good for my case showing her as a controlling irrational person....the Judge at the last hearing saw that and ripped in to her about it.
We will see this Friday (3rd) if the last 15 months of [censored] and hard work have done enough to get the contact my little boy deserves with me.

If you have had any allegations that have been investigated by the police get a solicitor or judge to order full disclosure to the courts and legal team…then you can make sure Cafcass have the full information.

In my case my ex tried to allege I was harassing her by text messages….i managed to prove to the police I hadn’t (kept detailed records and every text, backed up by my phone company O2’s records) but she told Cafcass that she’d called the police on me numerous occasions and that she’d had them issue me Harassment warnings. Cafcass never had the full disclosure until Dec after they had done their report. But their report was also needing the finding of fact hearing to show there was no safeguarding issues.
My ex is a real screwed up piece of work I can tell you guys! She should come with a government health warning!
The judge saw all the incident logs from the police…noted that in all they said there is nothing harassing in nature or volume considered by a “rational person” – Their words!!! I nearly wet myself when I got my hands on those reports before the hearing in Dec.
Her actions to try and sabotage my case for contact backfired by the reports from the police who she used to harass me!
If I could I’d show you the reports and the allegations……She was like a child stamping her feet because she wasn’t getting her own way! and it all backfired on her………she would’ve been better off having it as “he said – she said” with no one else involved at least she would’ve had the benefit of doubt based on so many ex’s who do harass being guys according to police statistics!

Anyhow all I would say is be honest and tell the truth…..don’t show hatred to your ex….show sympathy for her irrational behaviour or whatever her own reasons are for being like she is.
Don’t turn it in to a muck throwing match like my ex tried to do with me…..i stuck to the truth…and backed up every event with notes, times, dates etc…

Judges are starting to see not all Dads are what they are made out to be…..fingers crossed for you.