[Solved] First contact in 9 months

Maybe you can keep a record of drop offs with your phone. I would say write in the book and photo it and put it in their bag, but he might not return it to you and I doubt he will be writing in it!

I would do as Mojo said, if you take a photo of the book at least you have a copy. If you're worried about him accusing you of not sticking to the times, maybe worth taking a photo when you drop off to prove you were there at the correct time too.....

Just a thought - the various fitness and geotagging apps available on phone apps allow you to track your position and time - that strikes me as being an ideal way to say where you were and when.

Just a quick one.
Eldest didnt want to sleep at dads at weekend. He was there in the day but left and made his way to nans about tea time, he range me and said he didnt wanna sleep.
Dad went to pick him up at 9.30pm that night and he got all upset and still didnt wanna go. My mum told him he didnt have to if he didnt want to given the state he was in.

Today my mums had a threatenig letter from his solicitor saying shes stopping contact!! Hes 12 FGS! We cannot physically force him to go.

They also have the contact date wrong, was supposed to be everyother weekend starting last weekend, but the order says every weekend. We agreed earlier in the week he would miss this weekend but the solicitors letter clearly states she must not stop contact this weekend 7th Nov!! Im inclined to [censored] drop them off and have him bnreak the order now!! Im furious!

I would advise you to write to his solicitor and point out that the eldest was upset and after spending the day with dad made his own way back to his grandparents and that when the father turned up at 9.30pm to take him back home with him the child refused and became very distressed and in these circumstances your mother felt she couldn't insist.

Then write to the court to tell them of this development and include a copy of the solicitors letter to your mum and a copy of the letter you sent back to his solicitor in response. You can also point out that the contents of the interim order differ from what was agreed in court and that the overnights were to be every fortnight not every weekend and ask what can be done about correcting this.
If the court is close enough you might thing about taking the letter in in person and asking for someone to look at it because of the problem that could arise at the weekend.

Good luck

Thanks Mojo

Ive already emailed his solicitor saying exactly that.

The problem is, which court do I write to? We are in a different court at the next directions hearing to the one the first hearing was held at??

Is it the same case number crocs?

you should keep all text messages, and Amazon have some great little voice recorders, i have started recording phone calls to my ex and transcribing any text's that contain scorn of any kind, the smart thing for you now seems to make a real time recorded history of handovers and conversations, it may not be valid in court but it will show Social Services [CAFCASS] that you are not lying!.

I'm assuming so mojo, haven't even got a copy if the flipping order yet!
How incompetent of his solicitor though, getting dates so wrong when kids feelings are involved.
I'm so mad.
Off to calm down with wine!!