[Solved] Finding of fact ?

I can't ever imagine a court would go for a fact find hearing over FB issues what a load of [censored] what were Caftwats recommendations at the end of the report? Remember Caftwats only recommend to the courts they may or may not act upon them, My S7 for 90% of the report slagged me off made me out to be a right child abuser and DV abuser but they recommended contact and the courts ignored all the slagging me off and went with their recommendations.

The reporter put this in her recommendations - I am clear in my mind the child needs to be able to have some sort of relationship with her father and brother, I would wish both parties to consider my suggestions and before court I will answer any questions and see if we can come up with a constructive first step forward.

There were 2 suggestions.....1st one that I sit in front of a one way mirror and my daughter asks me questions via the reporter and 2nd that we have a family meeting??

Thanks for the advice.

The Judge dismissed the need for a Finding of fact order, stating that basically that even if the allegations were proven, it wouldn't change the fact that i should be having contact with my Daughter(At this point the ex was screaming and shouting and almost walked out of the court room until the judge managed to talk her into staying)!! But she did say that if the ex produced some evidence that she would issue a None mole order?

The ex continued to shout and accuse me of all sorts for the rest of her court appearance, stating that it didn't matter what the judge said because she is moving away again in November(April this year she moved without telling the courts but I managed to find out where she had moved to). So with that in mind the Judge pushed for things to start progressing quickly setting up 4 contact centre meetings for My son(who hasn't seen his sister since 2012 same as me) and daughter to take place as quickly as possible and every week(not every fortnight as they want to establish contact before the ex moves again). The first contact is a week Saturday.

I came away with a meeting next week, so me, the ex, cafcass and the Daughters solicitors can have a sit down and talk how we can get the contact between me and our Daughter started.......both the cafcass reporter and solicitor said they think it will be more of the same( the ex shouting the odds with no progress) and then I have a magic mirror meeting at the beginning of November where my Daughter will be behind the mirror and be able to ask me questions?? I guess this is so she can see me and hear my voice? We are back at court the end of that week for another directions hearing!

Although I think this is a positive step forward, I've been this close to contact before and the ex didn't turn up for the 3 sessions that had been arranged, forcing me to go for an enforcement order.

I guess at least if she doesnt comply with what th judge has ordered i only have 4 weeks before I return to court.

Sounds like an absolute nightmare mate. I hope it goes ok for you. Did the judge not chastise her for moving without telling the courts? It sounds rather worrying.

Jesus christ your ex sounds like a carbon copy of mine, whats all this mirror bollocks? I've never heard anything so stupid in my life everyone out that [censored] organisation needs putting down my god.

Thats said it all does sound positive and in your favour mate, you will almost defo get contact and your ex seems to be clutching at straws so I'd try not to worry too much all this just takes time if the ex is being difficult honestly mines the same she kicked off when the contact order was made and she ignored it for 2 months, she will come round the courts will get pissed off sooner or later and start punishing her just carry on fighting in the knowledge that you are nearly there it's just a matter of time mate 🙂

No not really dan, she has got away with lots during this really.....She agreed to contact at the first court hearing - then didnt turn up to the contact sessions. So i went back to court with a Enforcement order she didnt turn up to that or the following 5 court dates after that, then she moved. But she has been to the last two court dates. All the judge said to her when she eventually turned up was that without her being in the court room they can only take my side of the story and that might not turn out good for her??

Had a call from the contact centre on Friday saying that they have been trying to get in touch with the ex re the contact for my son and daughter....but the ex is not responding to their calls......so i'm guessing she has gone back to the burying your head in the sand tactics she previously tried?!

Mr Slim, our exs do sound extremley similar! We just have to keep fighting our corners, hopefully one day the courts will of had enough of them and do something positive for us......but im still a bit sceptical 🙁

That sounds mental mate, how can they not hold her to account for failing to show to court that many times? Very worrying indeed. I hope you get some progress soon.

Sounds like your ex needs a bollocking off the court to kick her into touch, Just dragging my ex back into court seems to have done the trick she's been turning up to the contact centre sessions every week, she's still being a vile [censored] from [censored] though