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Had the section 7 report through last week and attended latest hearing on Friday. The report is very clear that there are signs of alienation and that mum's negative view of me has influenced the children and led to them experiencing emotional harm. The judge has ordered supervised contact over the next 8 weeks before a final hearing. Does anybody have much experience with supervised contact? Although I have not seen the kids for 9 months now, I want contact to be as natural as possible and don't want the children to feel they are being watched, etc. The first session is likely to feel awkward for them, as they have had to go along with mums view for so long and may feel guilty, but I want to assure them I am just looking to move forward and carry on as normal, without lowering myself to talking about mum.
Any experience of supervised contact you can share would be welcomed. Is it possible that she could make things difficult, such as not bringing the children to the centre? Or somehow trying to encourage them not to engage during the session?
I'm so happy that you have some sort of contact be it supervised or not with your children.
I am yet to get to that stage so I cannot comment first hand regarding how it will be or what to expect but I have read up a heck of a lot over the last 2 years regarding all aspects of separation from children.
My one piece of advise would be that you make the day as normal as possible and DO NOT mention the alienation at all, however difficult this may be for you.
The day is about reconnecting with your children and getting them to enjoy their time with you again.
Good luck and let us know how it goes.
chris, did report say it has to be in a contact centre? if not, then nothing wrong with a family member being with you at home, while your with the kids. in my case someone just wanted me to be in contact centre out of spite lol. zero safe guarding issues.
They have recommended a contact centre up until the final hearing in 8 weeks. I still deny all allegations but I no longer care about the type of contact granted at this stage, just looking forward to seeing them again and hopefully convincing them that a relationship with BOTH parents is the best way forward. I think we both need to accept that we should communicate better in future, although I will never forgive her for what she has put me through
yep, just focus on seeing your children and enjoying time with them. if sessions in contact centre go smoothly, then will work in your favour a lot for the next hearing. as for contact with ex, i have given up and dont care about contact with her. cafcass etc said ex can use a contact book and write in there lol. whatever.
as long as we have a good defined order, then hopefully we can carry on without contact with ex.
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