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[Solved] FINALLY SOME GOOD NEWS!!!!!! πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

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(@mr-slim)
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It did make me laugh my ex brought in pics of me Dj'ing in Ibiza and started screaming and shouting for me to do another drug test the Judge looked at her gone out and said he's dj'ing not doing any drugs as far as I can see then asked if I'd had a good time which I replied yes I've always wanted to Dj in Ibiza it's a dream come true I think I'll be an inspiration to my daughter as her mum dad grandad are all dj's so it's in her blood, they loved that πŸ™‚

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Topic starter Posted : 29/07/2014 10:34 pm
(@Nannyjane)
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πŸ˜† πŸ˜† πŸ˜†

That funny! πŸ˜‰

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Posted : 29/07/2014 11:18 pm
(@mr-slim)
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Another classic...........

I bowled in there with my bundle x 4 which was perfectly indexed and cross referenced with my position statement my statement in response to the s7 then the Judge said this is a review hearing Mr Slim not a finally contested hearing but then passed the copies along to the magistrates haha........

I then started to respond to the s7 and dismissed every line refering to evidence in my court bundle then all 3 Judge and magistrates opened the bundle and went straight to the page it was a classic THEY LOVE HAVING S**T TO READ in front of them they all did it at exactly the same time it was magical and proved I'd got it right with the bundle.

They thanked me 6-7 times for bringing them in and at the end gave them back with a smile and said just bring them in for the final hearing mr slim I was in stitches we had another little chat about where in the world I had dj'ed and clicked my heals and was out of there πŸ™‚

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Topic starter Posted : 30/07/2014 1:29 am
(@mr-slim)
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The top and bottom of it today was.......

8 weeks in a contact centre for 1 hour every 2 weeks then 2 hours for the following 4 weeks before the next hearing.

They enrolled me on a parenting course there and then which is held opposite my house so just got to complete that.

I've got to do another hair strand test mid sept.

Once I've done that lot I'll get unrestricted unsupervised contact πŸ™‚

As for my step daughter only cards and pressies at bdays and xmas but her father has actually started to see her so thats good but I was told in no uncertain terms to concentrate on my Girl first then they may review things at a later date.

I'm more than happy with all that πŸ™‚

I'll be compiling Mr Slims guide to Cafcass and what to expect at a review hearing once I've had a sleep and recovered for the last 8 months of [censored] πŸ™‚

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Topic starter Posted : 30/07/2014 1:37 am
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(@simon7580)
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Slim,

Mission accomplished πŸ™‚

You had a really good result today considering how hostile your ex has been up until now. Jump through the hoops, and in 3 months you could be getting unsupervised contact, and building up more hours with your daughter.

I bet you can't wait to be reunited with your daughter and start rebuilding the bond you had.

It was always going to be a difficult getting a contact order with your step daughter, considering her situation, and the fact her biological father is on the scene. But hey, you were willing to be a dad to her in her father's absence so that she would have a father figure in her life. That's really commendable.

I hope for her sake her dad sticks around, because she deserves a father, and he should really enjoy the fact he has a daughter. Hopefully they can start to rebuild their relationship, whilst you do the same with your daughter. Given time, when things settle down, hopefully you can all see each other and enjoy doing things together. I think will happen given time.

Well done though mate, you stuck at it for 8 hard months. Your daughter can be proud πŸ™‚

Simon.

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Posted : 30/07/2014 2:08 am
MR SLIM and MR SLIM reacted
(@mr-slim)
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My ex did not back down one inch mate she has just dug her heels in 10 x more the only reason she agreed to contact was because the court told her of the punishment if she didn't agree to the order.

To be honest I was embarrassed for her today she has become so bitter and twisted at times she was making no sense at all unfortunately my best friend has gone for good πŸ™

I can't wait to see my Girl it's been a rough 8 months but at least I've kicked the weed and I'm a 10 x better person I was If I got through that I can get through anything my confidence has gone through the roof too.

Yeah Just found out they fed me a load of bull her father still hasnt seen her they just said they had came up with an arrangement today to stop me having contact I spoke for 45 mins with him whilst the court tried to talk my ex into allowing contact and he said the same once she calmed down then he could see contact resuming once i started doing things with my girl and their nieces and nephews she won't want her to be left out for sure.

In the reasons for the court order the first line says In view of Mr Slims Court bundle and the report recommendations we issue this order πŸ™‚

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Topic starter Posted : 30/07/2014 2:38 am
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(@1626)
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πŸ˜† πŸ˜† πŸ˜† at the Dj ing remarks from the Magistrates. So happy for you, you've worked [censored] hard for this and your daughters are lucky to have someone so committed to doing the best by them.

Hope you're feeling better today and looking forward to your first visit.

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Posted : 30/07/2014 8:17 am
(@mr-slim)
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Feel a bit better today got another day off work just got a bad sore throat had a little bit of decent sleep still getting over the flu that was the worst few days of my life yesterday was unreal I never want to go through that again I'm just glad things are now going my way I'm really shocked at how good the courts were and how they liaised with my ex and talked her around, that bundle sealed the deal coupled with my PS just got to organise the contact centre today and we're good to go.

Gonna try and get my life on track now I've let everything get upside down big time need to catch up with work stuff sort my flat out all the boring stuff I've let slide, this will go to a contested hearing after the next review hearing as my ex will of dug her heels in even more now she was a disgrace yesterday really shown her true colours to the court I can't get over their response to me though it was so refreshing after 8 months of everything against me πŸ™‚

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Topic starter Posted : 30/07/2014 10:52 am
(@dadmod4)
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Great result - can't say much more than has already been said, I know you suffered a lot through this but it's definitely all been worth it.

I wonder whether you could build a friendship with your stepdaughter's father - that might help you all in the long run as if you got together, then so could your daughters. Just be mindful if this happens that you aren't doing anything that could upset the court - but the possibility is something you could raise at the next hearing.

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Posted : 31/07/2014 12:04 am
MR SLIM and MR SLIM reacted
(@mr-slim)
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Now its funny you should say that actd as as it happens me and father have always been good friends up until recently as we're both dj's we used to play together and do this back 2 back thing that we were renowned for he is an amazing dj so I've always respected him for that, yesterday we spoke for an hour outside the court room whilst the judges talked my ex round.

The legal adviser cottoned on that he is a very clever bloke and stuck her head out and said it's good to see you guys talking now he said exactly what would happen yesterday to a T he said forget his girl for the time being and concentrate on mine and things will change once out ex calms down as he had exactly the same sh*t as me but he just ran for the hills now this is what my ex thought what I would do.

Him and the ex have agreed he sees his girl once a week and he's promised me that he will stick to it but im not holding my breath but I think things will pan out in the future.

I've got a pretty sweet deal to be fair just got to do a parenting course with some yummy mummies another drug test turn up to see my daughter for 3 months then its the next review hearing when i will be granted unsupervised access then its the final contested hearing with i'm more than prepared for and really looking forward too, for the firt time the shoes on the other foot the tables have turned the [censored] in my courts and I'm on an absolute mission πŸ™‚

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Topic starter Posted : 31/07/2014 12:49 am
(@jodester)
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Havent been on here for a while but great news mate really happy for you and would have loved to have seen ex's face when you spoke to judges. Your final hearing will be before mine now so good luck hopefully you will get an even better result πŸ™‚

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Posted : 02/08/2014 10:09 pm
MR SLIM and MR SLIM reacted
(@mr-slim)
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oh her face screwed up like a bull dog chewing a piece of caramel it was classic just so pleased cafc**ts are no longer involved and a contact order has been made even though I can't see her sticking to it at least everything is going my way now finally πŸ™‚

Slim πŸ™‚

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Topic starter Posted : 05/08/2014 9:38 pm
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