[Solved] FINALLY AFTER 9 MONTHS I GOT TO SEE MY DAUGHTER!

Yeah I can't get over how cool she was, not one problem, she's a really chilled out pleasant kid, she's more of a little girl than a baby I can't believe how advanced she is for an 11 month year old shes been walking for the past 5 weeks apparently she's got 6 teeth, so proud of her, all the toys I took her went down a treat and she loved her little pack lunch I took her, I didn't crowd her or make a massive fuss I'm taking it really slowly but the CC staff were shocked at how well we played together ectr for saying she hadn't seen me for nearly 10 months, I think things will progress even better once my ex is not present and she gets used to being with me on my own, really looking forward to building my bond with her again I just hope my ex sticks to it, It will be awful if she doesn't it's so unfair on her if she does.

Yeah the next session is for an hour in 2 weeks time but I'm not sure how things will pan out at court on tuesday when my ex is in for a telling off off the judges for delaying the first contact for 8 weeks my ex is not a happy bunny about how well the contact went but we d
shall see next week.

I was allowed to attend the first scan and they put the ultra sound on my ex belly and my daughter seemed to turn round look directly at us then nod then lay on her back with her arms behind her head, she kept doing that yesterday she'd be strutting about then all of a sudden sit back put her hands behind her head and just lay there chilling it was magical 🙂

Great to hear all went well….hope it continues to for you and your little girl.

Its al about building things up now so she gets used to being with you and in time you’ll be able to take her out and about, to the park, your place and do all the things a father wants with their kids….spending quality time with them.

Good luck in court hope it goes well again for you….it gave my ex the kick up the [censored] a few times that she needed to remind her the courts don’t take kindly to being ignored!

Yeah today was tough going and didnt quite pan out as I thought but if that hearing wasnt set by the court then my ex would have never finally started contact in the first place

Hello mate,

key thing is you have contact. Your foot is in the door and it is only a matter of time that this will increase and hopefully your aim this time next year is to be having overnights. It is realistic!

The reality was that is unfortunately a judge isnt interested to getting into the nitty gritty - if contact is set up it is set up. Apologies I was a away for a few days.

I would have pushed for a schedule to increasing the contact. Did they propose anything? When are you next back?

BW

as it stands the court ordered 3 months in a contact centre 2 months ago and the first one was last saturday, so I couldn't go for more contact today, Todays hearing was to prompt my ex to actually agree to the contact centre as she ignored it initially for so long, the reasoning cafcass and the court ordered me to do this 12 week parenting course was because I've requested over night stays and they agree with my timetable of contact as I've outlined in my parenting plan and it does state in the order that once these 3 months of contact are up and I've shown my willingness to be there for my girl they will grant me with PR and they will agree to the contact I have requested this hangs on another negative drug test too, yeah the judges were just pleased the contact has started and even my ex said she is happy with it so in reality I've just got to crack on with my parenting course go to contact and theyve set the next hearing for mid november.

I've also got to get my life back in order pretty sharpish as I've let everything slide during the last month I'm just completely exhausted no sleep for the past year has taken its toll and I'm mentally ruined.

I was shocked by the ex she made herself look like a fool and acted so childish she simply can't grasp that we have to get on for the sake of our Daughter she went on like a spoilt brat throughout although I'm going to try and build bridges at each contact session so at least I can say I tried.

Well done you! You can hold your head high. I love to read things like this, you can see beyond the past and move forward. Honest, well done.

So pleased for you.

Happy for you Mr.S !!

Hopefully now you can sleep a bit better and allow your mind to relax little now. Everything has a route and things are going your way!

Nice one!
🙂

I'm buzzing again now that courts over and done with for the time being I can concentrate on seeing my girl now it's took a few days to come down off that 9 months of pure [censored] 🙂

Hi Slim,

Like many I've followed your journey and been rooting for you.

I don't log on that often but just felt moved by your posts and wanted to say I'm so glad things are moving forward.

I hope the contact continues to get better and better 🙂

Best of luck, and thanks for your posts here as reading them has helped me through my own difficult struggle.

BRILLIANT NEWS - Really pleased things are moving in the right direction Slim. All the very best.