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Whoop! Whoop! Finally got the final order through after 10 months fighting through the Courts for my beautiful baby Daughter.
On reflection the absolute [censored] has been worth it I'm so pleased i stuck in there and fought like a dog for what I always known was right it is all more than worth the grief trust me π
It's sealed the deal seeing it all written down in black and white I can close the book on one of the worst times of my life but it has given me the confidence to carry on the fight is if my ex decides to mess about again.
The Final order is pretty watertight and sets out the next 3 months worth of weekly contact in stone which increases progressively, It does point out that me and the ex need to agree on long term contact, prolonged contact, special occasions and overnight stays but as long as it say that in their if I don't get what my Daughter deserves I'll be straight back to court to fight for it and my ex knows this.
So in a nutshell I'm over the moon I'm so pleased I stuck in their even though it was hard at times my Daughter has got what she deserves my biggest advice to anyone currently going through the courts at the moment is DO NOT AND NEVER GIVE IN! You WILL get to be part of your childs/childrens lives trust me on that one.
I can't believe I'm saying it was all worth it as it so was I can concentrate on being a dad now and since the courts have finished I am actually on speaking terms with the ex and I never though that would be possible for sure.
Slim π
I can't stop reading it, I've copied it 6 times and updated my bundles just incase........... π
Thanks guys much appreciated I seen my daughter yesterday and my ex dropped her off an hour earlier to my surprise, I've heard she has had a change of heart and she is already indicating arranging overnight stays prolong contact and all special occasions, It seems my change of tack when dealing with her has worked a treat although I will never forgive or forget her vile actions over the past 2 years or ever trust her again but I am putting all that aside and just concentrating on whats best for our daughter.
Contact went fantastic the bond between me and my girl gets deeper every time I see her now, she will not leave my side at all, just got one more contact at the contact centre next week then its spit between my ex's sisters house and my house up until the end of march when it goes completely on my own with her and overnights ect .
I can't wait to see the back of that contact centre and all the witches who work there although I've made so good friends with the other dads who are there we have exchanged numbers ect so I'll be seeing them again and I'm helping 2 of them out with their own court cases π
I can't stop reading it, I've copied it 6 times and updated my bundles just incase........... π
I still have all of the contact and residence orders in a file in dropbox so I can access them anywhere, anytime. These are from about 8 years ago, and I won't ever need them again (my youngest is now 16), but does make for a good read on occasions π
I'm keeping them as I wouldn't be surprised if we end up back in court and when my beauty is old enough and she asks about if I fought for her or not I will just sling her a copy to read.
Glad to hear it's all been finalised and sorted out Slim! And a very positive resolution too!
I am currently looking at my final CAO too, purely to ensure my calendar is up to date with all the contact changes - but still raises a wry smile!
As you say, the bundles are all secured, updated and on standby just in case, but for now it's time to relax and enjoy the contact you deserve with your daughter.
All the best mate,
BD
Well done Mr Slim, you did the right thing.
You will be able to look your daughter in the eye when she is grown and tell her you did everything you could. That is what motivates most of us dads; I had an expensive legal tussle with my son's mother that took me to the very limits of my emotional reserves. The result was worth it though, he lives with me very nearly half the time, is doing really well at school and is better adjusted than very many 10 year olds.
Best wishes, be a good dad.
AO
It's taking me ages to get over all the court [censored] living like that for pretty much 2 years has killed me I'm still trying to get my sleeping pattern sorted i feel like I've always lost something not having the stress there.
It is great seeing my little one every week we're really building our bond back up but I can't stop thinking if and when the ex will turn again but we shall see, I am so proud I fought like I did though and my mind will be clear for the rest of my life knowing I done my best π
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