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Hi All,
I hope you are well and that the holidays and new year has bought about some kind of energy. I thought I was at the final hurdle with everything to do with contact with my now 3 year old daughter. I have used this site since the beginning of my ordeal and have been able to represent myself to the point of getting a well done from the Judge.
I thought this would be over prior to 2017 beginning but my ex is still trying to hold on to what she can in terms of extending the time I get to take my daughter home.
The cafcass officer (useless in my humble opinionion), has put down that I should seek counselling sessions to understand the gravity of the situation...My next hearing is for Feb 2017, but I am thinking instead of waiting for the Court to suggest this, I will do this ASAP.
Slowly, but surely the court went from finding the allegations against me as no further action except for one full blown argument between me andy ex which is the reason for this counselling, the argument must have lasted the whole day, and where cafcass met my ex in person, they gave me a phone call for an hour.
Any help on this matter would be appreciated...I am grateful for everything you all have done in terms of increasing my confidence to represent myself, and I hope anyone else in this position is able to see that representing yourself with the help on this site is possible. And cost of a solicitor shouldn't be a problem when it comes to our children.
Hi there,
My opinion would be that if you are comfortable with taking counselling before the judge suggests it then go for it the more you can do off your own back the better, it shows that you are willing to do everything within your power to resolve the issues.
GTTS
I agree with GTTS, and it will speed matters along if the court don't have to order on condition that you take councelling,
Thanks so much, I'm on the road to doing that. Called up my GP and booked an appt for Monday. What kind of conversation do I have with my doc? I'll show her the latest court order? Or shall I take the entire court portfolio?
Again, I appreciate your replies.
Yas
Your doctor will only have a limited amount of time so you'll need to be brief with him.
That's for the response. I went to the doctors and they gave me a list, googled lol. I've got my first session tomorrow. I'm hoping once I updated my final position statement to include counseling sessions, not only the one tomorrow but documented on going sessions I can add it with my list of requests e.g. weekly contact, fortnightly contact, request for school reports, holidays etc and it should go from a further directions hearing to a final direction right?
I can't think anything else I could be asked to do...From full on police checks, intimate texts and calls being bought out, to my ex vanishing with my daughter (sent C100 to her parents home after not being able to locate), to recorded sessions to now counselling. I really don't know what else to include in my final position statement, so any help would be appreciated.
Thanks so much on advance to any replies, if you have written a final position or read one please do let me know of any inclusions etc.
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