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@Vik2001 where did this end?
she tried to appeal, but it got thrown out, she had no grounds. cafcass stuck by their decision of changing their view to give 2 nights extra to me.
she was just bitter, and doing everything to deny me having access, luckily the judge and then finally cafcass saw straight through this. shes probably more upset her CM payments will be lowered, its never about the kids for women, just the money side.
@Vik2001 How do they fill 3 days? It seems like a lot of time. I am wondering as I am self-representing.
the first day is just the initial hearing (2 hours)
then 2 weeks laters i had the final 2 days.
the second day was a full on day, we was both cross examined by each others barristers.
the 3rd and last day was just the judges decision and explanation for the decision being read out. rest of the day, was sorting out the court order and formalities of how things will be decided on.
it pays to have a barrister especially if your going to be cross examined.
@Vik2001 Thanks for the quick reply. I am considering having a barrister for the last hearing. I have had 4 hearings and still don't see the point of the barristers.
@Vik2001 Thanks for the quick reply. I am considering having a barrister for the last hearing. I have had 4 hearings and still don't see the point of the barristers.
for the final hearing its worth it, to deal with the formalities of the court order in particular.
I will second that regarding costs - I tried this over 15 years ago (my costs were £40k then - not including the divorce which had been settled a couple of years before). At every hearing, I asked for costs, and they were always reserved (basically, kicking the can down the road). Once residency (with me) and contact were finall sorted, I went for another hearing for costs (ironically, costing a couple of thousand for that hearing) and the judge said that my ex had "been acting reasonable, namely for an alcoholic in denial" and dismissed my claim for costs - despite the fact that she had repeatedly ignored court orders to procide information and samples on time.
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