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Hi all
So I had my first direction hearing yesterday. Unfortunately an agreement with the Mother wasn't reached, however it wasn't all negative.
I represented myself and I believe I did so quite well. My ex had a solicitor, but she didn't seem very strong.
The judge has ordered us to return for a final hearing in the next 4-6 weeks. With the only points to be discussed being; the terms of regular contact; Christmas' and holidays abroad.
The judge alluded to the fact that my ex's proposal wasn't clear enough and was very vague. Her proposal is that I have the children for 1 night every weekend, then she might consider longer periods of time in the future. Her reasons are; that she believes any longer than one night and the children would 'miss her' too much.
My proposal is that I would like to have the children for 3 nights every other weekend. So as I can have some quality time with them. It is difficult for me to offer any midweek contact, as I work very antisocial hours. It is also difficult for me to have the children ever single weekend because I need to work the occasional weekend.
I believe the judge was leaning towards my proposal.
The judge said the hearing would last a maximum of 2 hours and there would be opportunity for questioning. I honestly don't see there are many questions to be asked. It just comes down to the fact that we cannot agree. My ex has openly said she wants to make my life as difficult as possible, so it is unlikely she will agree to my terms.
I guess, I just want to know ... do I need a solicitor for this final hearing, or is it a waste of money?
Also ... if the decision goes to the magistrates - what are they likely to recommend in terms of contact.
thanks
viv
Hey Viv,
Doesn't sound like you need a solicitor if it's just the mother being difficult. As Slim says, you sound like you're doing a good job. Partner in for a final hearing over the next week in similar situation of mother being difficult and our MF has helped prep the questions and closing submission, I'd be happy to share some of the general points that might help you. PM me if you want me to send anything over.
Good luck π
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