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Greetings,
Next month I have my final hearing. The judge has said to make a position statement and question for the Caffcass as my sons mother did not agree with Caffcass recommendation.
Has anybody got any suggestion what I should ask Caffcass? In all fairness the judge said you don't disagree with Caffcass some I shouldn't have much to say.
Thanks in advance.
hi,
i hope your final hearing goes well for you. can you give little summary of what cafcass recommended?
you can ask cafcass about anything you disagree with. but what i found is it didnt really get anywhere. e.g. i asked for mid-week overnights. my ex refused, and cafcass did not recommend it, and she stood by her position. so i ended up taking mid-week contact. picking up kids from school and spending few hours with them.
lol my ex disagreed with basically everything cafcass recommended. have you received your ex's response to the recommendations? you have to counter everything she disagrees with. e.g. my ex said she didnt want me having kids fri-sun, but only sat-sun, her being silly and going against cafcass 🙂
Cafcass said I said have my son every other weekend, once in the week when I don't have him and joint holidays.
My just disagreed with it all and said I shouldn't have my son because he spends weekends her parents and see his friends,called me abusive and said I said see my son but it'd not appropriate at the moment.
I have never been arrested for any forms of domestic abuse or spoke to her in years.
Cafcass said I said have my son every other weekend, once in the week when I don't have him and joint holidays.
My just disagreed with it all and said I shouldn't have my son because he spends weekends her parents and see his friends,called me abusive and said I said see my son but it'd not appropriate at the moment.
yep my ex said same rubbish. that on fridays, their family have big get together, and our kids enjoy hanging around with other kids. so thats why i shouldnt have kids fri-sun. rubbish arguments. you simply counter that by saying you need more time. you have many big days out planned for your kids e.g. legoland etc, so you need quality time on the weekends and how its fair on the children to spend more time with their father.
cafcass is on your side so it should go well for you.
Thanks
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