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I wouldnt be raising general concerns about your son as its likely to go against you. What you would need to do is work out when exactly you are able to have your son as it isnt going to be 50-50. You could say something like i was seeking 50-50 ,but i realise this isnt workable do propose this instead etc. Would your boss give you time off during week, late start or early finish couple of times a week ?
I'm due to start a new job the Monday after court as my current job wouldn't even allow me to finish early for my phone calls with there being a problem! I'd have to speak to my new boss and see what he is able to accommodate.
School gave raised concerns to me and been trying to contact Cafcass, Cafcass have also used the term "alienation" and said they need to investigate further.
What can I expect for a final hearing? Same as others? I've started preparing position statement, is there anything else?
Addendum report fully supported the original recommendations... No change except length of time between each step changes slightly!
Very happy! But how straight forward will final hearing go.... I fully agree, can already predict she wont... There is nothing to cross examine either as she made no further allegations, so wonder what she'll pull out the hat next!!
@antdad thats great news. court like go with Cafcass recommendations like 9/10. so if you agree to everything then it should be easy hearing for you. If your ex is not happy with recommendations she will probably try negotiate with you. but if you don't agree, then be firm and stand your ground. then all they can do is plead with court to decide. Court may expect both parents to be reasonable and compromise.
Final hearing should be very straight forward. You accept the recommendations in addendum report. Which makes your case more solid is that it backs up the original recommendations . You dont need to cross examine the otherside either or challenge the report in anyway.
Ex partner may want you cross examined , but if she is represented they may advise its a waste of time due to now 2 reports recommending the same. what you could do before final hearing is fine tune your final order. are special days shared, school holidays sorted out ..times/handovers etc basically making it water tight and stopping it being manipulated by ex in anyway best you can
Fine-tuning my position statement tonight!
For what reason would the other party deliberately not serve me with any documents the court has requested? Her solicitor was meant to serve me with a letter she had to submit to court and hasn't. I chased if and got ignored.
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