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Well we are hoping tomorrow is the day.
Ordered 3 hourly contact sessions went great. Cafcass then organised another 2 contact sessions which were to be 4 hours then 5 hours. However, nasty Mother had other ideas and my Partner got a Lawyer's letter informing him that child only wanted 3 hours and no more. Cafcass were on holiday so my partner didn't rock the boat on the first session. However on the 2nd session which was to be 5 hours (as recommended by Cafcass), Mother told child she would pick him up after 3 hours. My partner had a discussion with the child and he decided to stay for the full 5 hours. Mother was not amused to say the least and has complained profusely to Cafcass. Give Cafcass their due, they are sticking to their guns and have made recommended for after the hearing that contact increases over 4 sessions, then moves to 4 overnights before consideration is given to child coming to visit us in Scotland.
Just received Mother's statement (which should've been limited to contact duration and venue) and she's complained all the way through that no-one is taking the 9 year-old's wishes and feelings into consideration. She claims child only wants to see his Dad for 3 hours once per month and if it is to increase then the child will decide - as if that's likely to happen as she's made dam sure she's blocked all contact for almost a year hiding behind the child's alleged 'wishes and feelings'.
Mother has also asked for a prohibited steps order to prevent the Father from contacting the school about the child. She is a teacher at his school and has been happily withdrawing the child deliberately to avoid contact and my Partner has (quite rightly) complained to the school who have reprimanded her for her behaviour.
Fingers crossed for tomorrow that my Partner gets a result as the sooner he starts building his relationship with his child the better. This poor kid is being mashed in the head by this evil cretin he calls a Mother.
Hope it went well for you today, keeping everything crossed for you! 🙂
Well final final hearing was postponed till February as judge ordered 3 X Progressing contact (fort nightly) then 4 monthly overnights. Whilst it wasn't a final order it is a step in the right direction.
Cafcass were very supportive of my Partner and very critical of the mother. Looks like Judge is giving her one more chance to prove herself.
Mother turned up to court with a letter that their 9-year old child apparently wrote which stated he only wanted to see his Dad once a month for 3 hours. Judge not impressed and told her it was clear she had stood over the child while he wrote it.
Her prohibited steps for keeping my partner away from contacting school was totally ignored. Then she said she'd contacted the doctor to have some counselling for the child as he was overly anxious. The Judge thought it was her that was overly anxious.
Whilst not what we were hoping for today, it's a massive result for my Partner and a big kick in the teeth to the despicable cretin he was married to who will be crying all the way home.
Good on The Judge
It looks like they are finally waking up to the Fact that Mothers word is not Gospel..
Is your other half in touch with Doctors? If so ask for all Correspondence re Counselling,
We have School on our Side..so that has helped us Massively.
Hostile Mothers show there true colours eventually.
Thanks everyone. We know it's still a long way from over but it's moving in the right direction. Having Cafcass on side is a big plus. Thankfully the Mother was so full of herself she showed her true colours to Cafcass and made the mistake of Ignoring what they'd recommended. That was the turning point.
The Judge was very clever and everything she opposed he made sure was ordered. She was trying her hardest to control the contact by demanding to know who would be there and where it was taking place. Judge said it was about time I was included in the contact sessions as I'm Dad'd partner. So I'm joining in at the next contact session and Father will collect and deliver child's from/to his home with no venue's stipulated. That will kill the mother. I'm so looking forward to watching her squirm.
An excellent result. Make sure you stay calm and don't appear to rub her nose in it (however much you are enjoying it on the inside) - you don't want to give her the slightest bit of ammunition for the future. But enjoy 🙂
This is great and it certainly looks like the tide has turned! Just keep on doing what you're doing and you will get there.....well done!
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