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Do you have a solicitor? Also who has ordered you to do a DVPP course. did cafcass recommend this ? did the family court request you to do this?
Do you know what hearing you are at , have you had a final hearing yet?
An alcohol test being negative is without a court saying dismissing your ex as a liar. They don't use that term in family court. when you have a negative test they don't pull ex up you just tend to get more contact instead and treated more favourably
I did have a solicitor, but costs were too much.
The Court ordered the DVPP, Cafcass agreed but did not want to fund it.
In which i found out if its Court ordered then Cafcass should oversee and fund it. I did query this everyone is at a lost!!!
There has been no final hearing as of yet, but the Court does want to know if i have been accepted or refused onto the Course.
The hearing is shortly, and it will be another DRA.
Can you advise?
Hi in 1 post you say court have ordered it and then a post before you say it was advised you do it, You need to look at paperwork which you would of been sent after 1st hearing and read it carefully. If it has been ordered by court then you just say you are happy to do it and u want to see your children and unaware of the process what happens next.
If it has been advised by the court which is possible . this could then would lead cafcass not wanting to fund it. if this is the case I would under no circumstances be doing a DVPP course as you are basically telling the courts and your ex you are guilty of domestic violence .
if it was only advised I would instead enrol , self refer on to a parenting course possibly through barnados for example and say you heard the separated parenting programme may be useful as you very interested and feel every parent would find the 2 you mentioned very useful and there are always new things to learn
Hi Warwickshire1,
After reading your message, got going through my paper work, at the contested hearing with Cafcass it says.
'Upon the Court having considered the applicant father undergoing a DVPP course...'
'The applicant father shall refer himself to an approved DVPP to access suitability.
Please note i did have a solicitor at the time, and it was pointed out that there was no Fact Finding hearing, but before submitting my C100 application, I did plead guilty to harassment, with no trial.
I have contacted many Separated parents programs, as i have to self refer, just awaiting feedback, i have taken many online parenting courses through netmums.
My ex-partner has said many times direct access will be given, if i do the DVPP course and complete it and that is willing to co-parent.
Knowing how to proceed is difficult, without a solicitor.
Thanks, your help is appreciated.
hi,
so cafcass are not interested in funding/referring you. here is info for DVPP self-referalls
https://www.cafcass.gov.uk/grown-ups/parents-and-carers/directory-of-providers/
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