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Your right, I'm just really worried about all this horrible situation, but like you said that it's going to be a long hard battle. If I'm lucky enough to get supervised contact through the courts, who pays for it??? I'm on benefits if that makes any difference? Also I'm just at the parental responsibility stage in court, so no involvement with cafcass as of yet. And I really appreciate all your help, thank you
It's natural to be worried, but try and keep yourself busy and make sure you look after yourself, get plenty of sleep and regular meals.
As far as I'm aware, you would have to pay for the contact centre, but I would certainly try and discuss this with the court and Social Services, they may be able to facilitate the supervised contact, or signpost you to organisations that might be able to help.
Hi and welcome to the forum
You've been given some really sound advice from Mojo and Slim. I would echo Mojo's words of slow down a bit and try to manage your expectations in the interim.
You will have to foot the bill for the contact centre but it's worth looking into this to see what is available in your area. In my area for example, supervised contact is £40 per hour (or £35 per hour if you're on benefits) but I do know that some areas have charitable organisations that don't cost as much as that.
You could start by looking up your area here - https://naccc.org.uk/
If you can't find anything affordable in your area when you get to that point, definitely make the court aware of the affordability issue.
hi has your ex put in alligations of dv? i dont think that you have to pay for contact center if? that is a court order
Yes I went to court earlier this year and I got acquitted, we were together on and off and now she has a no molestation order against me for the same reason, basically she was pushing me away because she was lieing to everyone about me, later I found out that she was sleeping behind my back so I guess it was easy for her to just carry on with the lies rather than coming clean, and now I've not seen my daughter now for four months, horrible situation,
Someone has to pay for contact centres a1dad2be and it's usually the father. There might be the odd scheme here or there that means they don't have to pay but these are few and far between and are usually for one of two reasons a) the contact centre is run as a charity b) it's part of a CCI with Cafcass - and those are not common.
It makes no difference to charges if contact is court ordered or not.
Yeah I have to pay £75 a hour, but if you are on benefits then you get a small discount, around the £65 mark, now my question is before mx ex stopped all contact I was on supervised contact with my neighbour, as recommended by social services pending a risk assessment, do you think that the judge will take this into consideration and apply this again or make me pay money I've not got through a contact centre???
Nobody can predict what a court will decide for interim arrangements. Whilst I appreciate that supervised contact is expensive, it can often be extremely worthwhile if the mother is making all sorts of allegations as the supervisor will prepare reports for the court to consider and these can often quash what the mother is alleging.
That's just lifted me up no end, thank you so much. Even if I get a hour once a month it will be magical, I can't wait to see my daughter smiling, and I really don't care how much it costs. Just sharing time with my daughter is priceless, three weeks to go for the next hearing, I'm really excited and worried at the same time. Thanks again for your help and advice
i stand corrected yoda sorry if i mislead anyone,
my advice is hang in there,, its very hard when you have been pushed out of a relationship,, but even more so as your a dad,,, i no,, how your feeling,, been there ,,,, am there,,
I'm really trying so hard to rise above all this, some days are better than others, but I'm sure with all the good advice and guidance from everyone on this site who have helped me so much, I will prevail, committed to the fight, determination and the pictures of my beautiful daughter and my memories of her will never fade, I will never ever give up
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