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I'll keep this as short as possible. I had a one night stand which led to my daughter being born. Mom let me meet her twice. The second time i met her the mom tried to have [censored] with me which I refused, I told her there could be no further relationships. 10 days later I was served with a non molestation accusing me of harassing her and calling her a [censored]. I accepted cross undertakings hoping It would speed up the process to see my daughter as contact was then refused. It took me 7 months to see my daughter again and I now have an interim order for 3 days per week. No overnights as this is still being refused and dealt with in the next hearing after April.
2 days after the court hearing she harassed my family asking for me to make contact. I refused so she then began texting and phoning me. In February she propositioned me for [censored] again on WhatsApp, I refused. 7 days later she came to handovers drunk and physically attacked me. The police logged a crime and accepted the WhatsApp of her apologising but refused to do anything due to me not sustaining any injuries. I cant help but feel hopeless and that no matter what she does she seems to get away with it just because she is a woman. I've just filed my witness statement detailing the events and asking for a change of residency. I'm representing myself does anyone know what processes I have to follow to change residency or is just stating it on a witness statement enough.
What are the chances of me being taken seriously now she has broken the undertaking, propositioned me again and attacked me? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
hi,
sorry to hear about your troubles. I think for a change of residency, there would have to be very serious reasons for it, such as mother being unfit to care for child. if you ask for it now, they may decide that the hearings are in the final stages, so possibly too late now to ask for a big change such as residency. What you can do is take a position statement with you to every hearing, and in it, you could request for a change of residency. When I was going through courts, I asked for order to be amended, for kids to live with both parents. but they decided against that, stating there was no compelling reason for it.
Hi I've only had 1 hearing so far a first dispute resolution hearing. I have put in my statement I have concerns with the substances and mental health of mom as she has admitted to taking tablets and being depressed.
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