[Solved] Fathers day

Thanks for those kind and encouraging words! I’d just like to echo what you have said and wish all dads everywhere a very Happy Fathers Day.

"bad times don't last forever .one day they will be back by your sides ." I really hope that's true. I have been hoping that a softly softly approach and allowing passage of time would heal estrangement from my kids. But recently read an article that says you shouldn't think like that because the passage of time just makes it permanent.

Bad times dont last forever . I was sat in a flat on my own ten years ago holding my head in my hands missing my child listening to sad music...after three years i finally got to see child had a great time .made up for lost time.then the ex stopped contact again ,it messed me up even more cause i had a bond this time with child .then i was granted contact again a couple years later ,and again made up for more lost time .then in 2016 the ex stopped it and this time has been the worst ...the amount of times i have wanted to end my life to stop the pain .but all i would be doing is being a coward and my child would never understand and i now regret ever thinking them thoughts but at the time i was low as can be ..now i try my best and prepare well and hope even tho i might think i havent got a hope in heĺl because of the messed up court system im just gonna keep on going cause ive got to because ive tried walking away and thinking i let the child find me when there older .but ive been here ten years ,may as well keep going till child reaches the age where they can turn round to mom and say im going to dads ....when that day comes and it will .i will be happy .like i said its fathers day i should be with my child just like all the other dads should but ive got memorys and that wiĺl keep me going for now .stay strong all dads

Thanks for that post 1234. It was kind of you to take the trouble. I hope it works out for you. Reading some articles simply doesn't help. My children aren't in touch with me. I send emails but don't get a reply. They seem to be extremely angry about the situation and put all the blame on me. I think all of us made a contribution and tend to feel regret more than blame. My own experience suggests the emotions grouped around feeling the loss are more painful than those grouped around feeling angry. In some ways it's easier and more simple and therefore tempting to stay angry all the time. It seems to be the way my wife is handling the situation and maybe she has set the pattern. My big concern is that the kids don't understand that I really love them. I tell them that I do and say I will always be available if they need me but it always sound like just words.