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Hi
Ive just been advised by letter today that the Family Mediation Service myself and my-ex / and mother of my toddler son, have dropped my mediation !?
Why would they do that ??? We both attended an initial meeting with them, individually of course (weeks ago) and I had emailed them to find out when it was likely to happen, as I want it set in stone for access to my son...My ex told me that she was not going to go to any mediation, and then she txt me this morning to say she would attend (clearly after being advised by her lawyer).....and then a letter arrives out the blue...saying that "the reason we believe is "Timing" of when mediation takes place is crucial and we believe, in this instance, the timing is not right for mediation to be effective.." ???
What on earth does that mean ???
So now, this whole thing is drawn out more and more now....back to Lawyer, then probably court..!
Hi and welcome to the forum
That does sound unusual. Have you spoken with the mediators office? Ordinarily, the only thing that would stop the mediation process is if one of the parties request it to be stopped.
If your ex is refusing to attend the only other choice as you seem aware of, is a court application.
Keep posting and we will do anything we can to support you.
Good luck
As yoda has suggested get in touch with the mediators to find out it seems like they have fobbed you off none of them are to be trusted they are absolute money grabbing scumbags and usually biased as [censored] I went through 4 of them and they were all just the same mine got dropped twice as the ex sited DV so they couldn't proceed.
It sounds like she has pulled out they usually say they're going to attend just to lead you on and drag it out for longer so nip it in the bud get your c100 signed off my the mediator and apply to the court, nothing is legally binding in mediation, court is a nightmare but at least you'll have something set in stone at the end of it and it should kick the ex into touch.
Good luck man
Slim 🙂
Thank you !!
I have no idea why they dropped it, and according to the ex, she received a letter also....
Im just about to email them and make a formal complaint. This has dragged on since Feb or March, my lawyer misunderstood my wishes and was making plans to just go to court and not apply for Family Mediation.....how bizarre, the Court would only suggest that to us anyway, so now, months later, Im no further forward at all.
These people are supposed to be Pro's. Is this an Oxymoron ?!! unreal
PS: What's a C100 ??
Hi again
Mediation has to be at least attempted before being allowed to make an application to court.
A C100 is a Child Arrangement Order application form. Your lawyer should complete this for you or with you and the Mediators need to complete a part of the form to say the process has been attempted. If this section is incomplete the court will not accept your application.
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