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It's been 9 months since the final court hearing and we've just got back after spending 5 days camping at a music festival.
Myself my ex my daughter and step daughter all went to a family music festival with 5 of the ex's friends and their kids and it was amazing we all had a brilliant time it was ace.
The festival was really well organised and there was plenty for the kids to do they all had a ball all weekend I met loads of new friends and got on really well with my ex's friends obviously I was a bit worried before we went been surrounded by my ex's friends after she told them for 2 years what a waster I was but I just got my head down and looked after the two girls to be honest I didn't care what they thought in the end and they were shocked apparently how nice I was lol.
There was only one instance where we all had a few drinks and we got onto the subject of our court battle one of my ex's friends tried to make out it was out of order that my ex had to raise my daughter without me you can imagine I wanted to let rip but I quietly changed the subject and I done a mr zippy and zipped my mouth shut lol.
there was another dad with 3 kids who went who is just starting court proceedings after an awful divorce so you can imagine I was unleashing all the advice. I felt so sorry for 4 of the kids as none of their dads went as they said camping wasn't their thing you could tell they wished their dad was there but we had a brilliant time they all wouldn't leave me alone all weekend.
Me and the ex got on all weekend with no issues at all I think she appreciated the help with both girls, I've defo rebuilt my relationship with my step daughter she kept telling me how much she loved me all weekend.
My ex told me straight that she is struggling big time with both girls and I seen it with my own eyes, My SD is disabled and she is like looking after 5 kids in one you can tell she misses her daddy too her dad has hardly spent anytime with her since the final hearing when my ex and him said he was seeing her every weekend that lasted for 1 weekend and he's probs had her for a few hours on 5 occasions since, shocking really.
He was actually working at the festival and never came to see her once I felt so sorry for her her behaviour is pretty bad to be fair and it rubs off on my girl and the ex can't cope anymore he's simply going to have to step up to the plate sooner rather than later but in reality I can't see it happening I'm hoping I will start having both girls soon just so that she's got a decent role model in her life.
My girl was well confused at first having me and the ex together all the time she didn't know who to come to half the time she was constantly saying mummy daddy all weekend bless her, she seems so much more settled now though it's great. What made the weekend for me was saturday night when we went to see one of the bands in the main arena me and my girl proper rocked out she was so happy confident and running round free as a bird it was ace.
So all in all what a great holiday I would of never seen that happening a year ago thats for sure!
All the best
Slim π
What a lovely account of your holiday!
I've not enjoyed myself that much in years my girls learned so much this weekend she's been a different kid all day today π
I expect you feel great and deservedly so.
To be able to take control of the group's conversation regarding your "court battle" and calmly change the subject, I think, you were very skilful and wise.
I hope those fathers who are not as advanced in their proceedings to see their children read your post and gain comfort from the fact that matters can improve greatly as you have proved.
It's been harder dealing and working with the ex for the sake of little one than court ever was I've had to change my approach and attitude towards her big time when court does come up in conversation we generally agree to disagree which seems to work fair play to her though she did invite me on this holiday we have defo built our friendship back up our girl seems so much more happy and settled its great thats the main thing, I can't wait til the festival next year now, sister sledge are playing too lol π
It's great to hear this Slim, I expect nothing less of you! You go from strength to strength and I know how hard it is to remain passive and amicable, but you do it for one very good reason...your beautiful little one.
Sister Sledge....wow I'll have to join you! x
Yup π I'll do what ever it takes for my Girl bless her I've still got her now as Mums feeling unwell and my SD is playing her right up as she did most of the weekend her dad really needs to step up it's getting beyond the joke now.
I love Sister Sledge "thinking of you" is one of my favourite tracks of all time.
You're more than welcome to come next year as we get the tickets for free as my SD's dad gets them for us (that's the only thing he is good for).
I can't get over the difference in my Girl after this weekend she seems so much more happy and chilled now, no more screaming when I pick her up and none when I put her to bed it's great her speech has improved 10 fold too π
Thinking of you is a tune ! π
Well done Slim, great to keep reading this positive updates.
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