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Thanks for the update Harry... it sounds like you’re getting there! Hopefully the case manager you spoke to last week will stick with your case.
It’s a good idea to ask for anything discussed/agreed over the phone to be put in writing.
Well done and best of luck
Mojo
Case manager said he’d be writing with his decision and revised payments.
Whilst my ex can appeal, given all the information I sent the cms originated from her I can’t see what she could appeal with.
It shows that the CMS standard response of wanting a court order can be worked around in other ways
They called her twice to ask her to confirm that I now had 3 days a week and both times she still told them no. So without hard evidence I wouldn’t have got the change agreed.
Flawed system that takes verbal say-so as the basis of calculation, though appreciate for the CMS shared care is a nightmare area to work with.
...I think in one respect you’re fortunate inasmuch as she provided you with a written schedule/calendar, which I don’t think is common practice.
I remember a past member that needed to prove his children slept overnight, so he took photos of them in Pjs, smartphones record date and time on the photos, which makes it really easy to show.... anyway he was successful in providing proof over a period of time and got an adjustment... it helps to think outside the box!
glad to hear this has worked out for you.
It's certainly a flawed system in many senses. So many different situations and no one size fits all solution!
Just to update
So, revised calculation arrived on the mat yesterday
Missed a call from CMS today, guessing ex is going for a mandatory reconsideration even though all the evidence is her emails and shared parenting calendars
Will this ever end????
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