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There is not much online saying what can be involved in a family assistance order any help advice on personal experience having a family assistance order are they good or bad is it just an opportunity for social services to get there foot in the door or are they a good thing .i spoke to a social worker and said they pretty much go with what ever the child wishes at face value and seem less powerful than a judge .and i think my ex would just walk all over them if socisl services tried telling ex to let me see our child
I've had limited experience of an FAO
Basically within the FAO, CAFCASS were ordered to monitor the indirect comunication bewtten myself and (Child) then to speak with (child) and help (child) to write back to me.
they were also supposed to keep this going for 6 months by which time there should have been enough time to get direct contact started.
However, in my case the ex was constantly there when CAFCASS saw (child) and were constantly telling (child) it's OK if they don't want to write back or have direct contact as she would support their "wishes".... basically (child) interprets that to mean "i don't want you to cos it will upset me". as was also the CAFCASS officer's words in court!
FAO if worded well and stuck to by CAFCASS and or whoever else is ordered to assist should be a good thing, it should prevent the ex from disrupting and preventing progression...however...that depends on how reasonable your ex can be for the sake of the kids!
I've had limited experience of an FAO
Basically within the FAO, CAFCASS were ordered to monitor the indirect comunication bewtten myself and (Child) then to speak with (child) and help (child) to write back to me.
they were also supposed to keep this going for 6 months by which time there should have been enough time to get direct contact started.
However, in my case the ex was constantly there when CAFCASS saw (child) and were constantly telling (child) it's OK if they don't want to write back or have direct contact as she would support their "wishes".... basically (child) interprets that to mean "i don't want you to cos it will upset me". as was also the CAFCASS officer's words in court!FAO if worded well and stuck to by CAFCASS and or whoever else is ordered to assist should be a good thing, it should prevent the ex from disrupting and preventing progression...however...that depends on how reasonable your ex can be for the sake of the kids!
thanks for reply my ex is real tricky but i have read her last witness statement and she says when i complete the x y z work that the court ask me she would then go to mediation and would do what the court ordered .i know when i get to court shes gonna say something like the child is happy now coming back to court again has made it awful for the child .my ex will get to any length but how ever it does say without the work being completed the court cant move forward so that must go in my favour also when reading back through all the reports by experts in case they moreless say that child has been brainwashed that me not seeing child is emotionally harmed but also says sending child to contact while the relationship between me and ex is bad .im of the view now that im a new person i want what is best for child i want to get along with mother and that mother needs to learn to trust and that im bending over backwards and have done all what has been asked of me ...im so much now more prepared for court than last time .dad i d also a person from local authrity has been invited to come to first hearing and it is the same judge as last time and i think he liked my attitude last time too
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