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Hey everybody
After a [censored] couple of weeks waiting for social services to investigate a terrible allegation made about me by my partners ex i finally received a call from them letting me know that they will not be looking into it any further as there was no evidence of wrongdoing.
They told me that his ex took it as well as anyone imagined when they let her know, and she still won't let me anywhere near the child as she believes she's right and they're wrong (if the child can't see me, my partner can't bring the child to our house which she has been against since the court ordered it). The child is now a 'child in need' with social services.
We are filing enforcement papers on Monday but I'm wondering if social services involvement will cause problems with how the court deal with breaches? We had a really great cafcass officer last time round and we were hoping we could get them to monitor compliance with the order for 12 months, but don't know if they can with social services heavily involved?
I have also now been told by SS that she can stop contact at any time if she feels there is a safeguarding issue, so she keeps making false allegations so she can stop contact. Can the court do anything about this?
Thanks 🙂
SS involvement won't cause any problems in how the court deals with the breaches, although they are likely to ask them to conduct any reports in the future and this could possiblekeep include any monitoring.
What you have been told is true, but that is why you are initiating enforcement so that she is made to realise that she cannot continue to thwart contact in this way.
Best of luck
Thanks Mojo,
How can an implacably hostile parent be made to realise they can't continue acting this way? Is there a way to minimise the disruption to contact when false allegations are repeatedly made?
We're having a really tough time being positive at the moment 🙁
Unfortunately its difficult to get someone so intent on preventing contact to stop going against court orders unless the court orders are firm enough. even then they are hit & miss from what i read and hear.
make sure any order has set out the contact rather than allowing "the parents to agree to any extra contact" if its firm then she is breaking court orders not just not agreeing to extra (expectations of court)
Hey Dad-i-d,
Luckily they could see how inflexible she was going to be and made it pretty tight. There is very little in the court order that is 'for the parents to to agree to'.
Unfortunately she is now making plans for the child on the day my partner has contact so she can move it to another day
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