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I really need help.
My ex wife has excused me of emotional abuse to her and that she has recently made claims that l've smacked my daughter around, l really don't know why she is doing this. I have already lost eveything and yet shes now trying to take my daughter away from me. I am trying to get the legal aid forms finished but this is taking so long.
She has also now stated that someone even saw me smacking my daughter and is willing to put it in a statement. I never have, l wouldn't dream of hurting my child.
I've tryed writing to her being reasonble and trying to move forward, l had social services involed, police. But nothing is done, is that good or bad?
Anything l can do? Seems everyone is taking the mothers side and l'm the big bad wolf, its tearing me apart.
It is not against the law to smack a child, how old was she meant to be at the time?
around 15months old, but say if l was smacking my daughter around why would she still come to me, know when l was home from work and shout out dad, dad, dad,till l gave her a kiss and cuddle?!
Just can't believe this.
www.childrenslegalcentre.com/userfiles/Smacking Just for info and El-cid is correct
Hi Forder, are you not seeing your child is this the mothers way of stopping you having contact and how old is your child
Hi, Thank you for the link, really helpful. Yes, l have not seen for for over two months now. My daughter is over a year old.
Hi There,
What you will find is that if and when this goes to court the judge will listen to her, he has to or he wouldn't be doing his job to protect the best interest of your child as if the allegation where true (I know they aren't) he may put a child at risk by dissmissing them.
The judges will ask for things to be done so that they can determin if she is telling the truth though and they are very good at seeing through lies, they have seen every trick in the book and very rarely get caught out by them.
You need to stay straight and don't allow yourself to get caught up in the [censored] for tat battles that may happen when this sort of thing happens, keep your side of things straight and down the line, document EVERYTHING that happens every conversation, txt message email, don't leave anything out (but equally don't add or embelsih) as long as you have every peice of evidence you can to show you are a good dad and have nor would ever hurt your daughter then the truth will come out in the end.
The thing with made up stories is they are very difficult to remember and people will slip up, when questioned, real facts are easy to recall and relay as they actually happened. Made up things tend to fall apart when questioned because no hatter how well rehearsed you can't cover every possible question you may get asked.
Darren
Hi , have you been to a solicitor if you havnt you can get in touch with coram, link at the bottom of page , they can give you legal advise. Im presuming you have parental responsibility, are you on the BC.
you can go down the court route and do this your self, it will cost you £200, they will expect you to have tried mediation and they will send you to mediation if you havnt . www.nfm.org
you can still apply for legal aid but you need to be quick as it stops in April
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