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So me and my partner and both going though court for our children both saying DV i was with her for 4 years and was getting beat up a lot every time i tried to leave i was told ill get "done" and that if she couldn't have me no one could. I tried to leave in 2011 she went to the police and said DV i got arrested was put on bail. She kept ringing the police telling them she made it all up but did no good i went to court and the court found she made it up to stop me from seeing the kids and any marks on her was self inflicted ( she told the police there was marks but would not show them) she told me she would get help if i went back i went back and still got beat on boxing day she beat me so bad i had a broken rib the police will not do anything due to her having the kids. The police took all pics and a statement even the doctor did a report saying the marks are form domestic abuse.
So i wanted to know would the first court case were she made up this story work in my favor ? In family court? She has had a bad upbringing my ex were her family accessed people of stuff they didn't do and she now thinks this is normal. So if i said to the court she has something medically wrong i was in a dv for 4 years but if i left i thought id get accessed again. Having 2 kids close together has made it even worse medically i think. So could i use the first court in my favor ?Or wouldn't a judge care ?
I have been told both parties are saying dv with no proof. ( due to police not arresting her) so the judge has now said social services can pick who the kids live with.
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