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My ex left 5 years ago, since then our relationship has gone from bad to worse. During our time as a couple she was mentally abusive and manipulative and called the police on 3 occasions claiming DA and DV, they investigated each and said there was no evidence to back her claims.
Since leaving she has only gotten worse and has used the kids as a weapon/bargaining chip at every opportunity, claimed harassment (again investigated and told no evidence) and claimed DA again. The police have investigated each allegation and basically told her to grow up. Social Services on the other hand are backing her up. We are currently a level down from child in need and I desperately want to get them put of this situation and away from her as having to deal with her is toxic.
My problem is that the false allegations from her make it all but impossible for me to get residence. Is there anything I can do to get these allegations removed or overruled?
Hi there
Unfortunately I don't think there is, if you were going through court, a finding of fact would help to draw a line under it, but even if that happened, courts are pretty reluctant to transfer residency of children, unless there are serious safeguarding issues. If she has the backing of Social Services that makes your position harder, no doubt.
All the best
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