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I really need help , my son has sent off c100 & has a court hearing this coming Tues, carcass has spoken to the ex & she has raised safe guarding issues on my son & going over old ground on the non mol order that she placed on him , the non mol was discharged & my son took an undertaking , carcass will speak to my son on Tues b4 the court hearing but in her summary she is now claiming my son raped her on 3 occasions & is on going police matter , this was never brought up in the non mol 3 months ago & my son has never been interviewed by police regarding this , she is trying anything from stopping my son seeing his son ,
Should I be worried ? & he won't have solicitor either as we both thought it would be a straight forward case
Hi there
I’d like to move your post into its own thread, if that’s ok. Tagging onto another members active threads can be confusing, with two different streams of discussion going on at the same time.
I’ve had a quick look back at your previous posts, the information I gave about preparing for the hearing is still relevant... did your son prepare a brief position statement?
The fact that his ex didn’t raise these allegations during the recent MMO proceedings should be raised by your son, either in his position statement, or verbally at the hearing.
With the seriousness of the allegations, the court will have to take them on board, which will most likely mean that the court will order reports from the police and a more detailed welfare report.
The court have a duty of care to investigate all allegations, whether they believe them or not. It will be up to the court, once they have gathered all of information to make a decision, but it’s unlikely they will grant contact until then.
Your son could ask for supervised contact in a contact centre, it’s worth a try, but he does need to tailor his expectations at this stage in the proceedings.
If your son decides he wants legal representation, in light of the seriousness of the new allegations, he can ask for an adjournment whilst he seeks to instruct a solicitor.
All the best
dean, this sounds very serious because of rape allegations. it will be tough but your son should definitely have a solicitor or barrister. barristers are cheaper. better to knock out these allegations at early stage.
you can search on the official bar council site, for direct access barristers:
No he hasn't put in a brief position statement as of yet , I'm still in shock at the allegation as I know it isn't true , the judge at the nmo said in his statement that she had nothing to back up her stories where my son had witness statements & text message print outs , I feel as if my son is on trial yet again just for wanting to see his son
... he can take the position statement with him to the hearing, as long as he takes extra copies for the other side and cafcass.
I know how hard this must be for you all... it would be great if the same judge was at the next hearing, do you have any idea if it’s the same judge?
I’m going to move your post and the following replies into its own thread, I shall give it the title - False Allegations - Any Advice?
Best of luck
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