[Solved] False Allegations

Like others have mentioned to you about the court forms etc, dont worry about it, when you get your court date show up at court and if your ex doesn't show then it will only look bad for her not you.

The cms payments unfortunately there isn't a lot you can do, my ex done the same thing with cms, they wanted me to make payments into her account via bank transfer every month I told them where to go and said they could take the payment directly from my wages even if it costs more and because of that they also deduct a small amount from the money my ex now receives which she wasnt happy about but not my problem, I'm doing my part and paying child maintenance.

As mentioned before completely ignore your ex and the games she is playing because getting stressed over it isn't helping you, deal with everything through lawyers/court, the less you communicate with her the less likely she will play these games or they will at least become less frequent over time. People like that are attention seekers and the less attention you give them then they will eventually get bored and move onto something or someone else. It will take time but believe me she will eventually get bored if you do not rise to the bullshit and games. Good luck

hi,

justbeingdad, please ignore all her [censored] and focus on court hearing. i am in same situation as you. she became a freak of nature and refused to tell me where shes staying. so i gave up trying to find out and kids told me anyways lol. she refuses direct contact with me too. i let CMS get hold of her, and they gave me just the bank details. fine and life goes on. just try and forget about her and move on with your life. you deserve better.

Thanks folks. Appreciate the reassuring messages. I need to stay focussed and not let her silent treatment/discard annoy me.

My son Adam is only a year old and we've been separated for 4 months now. He doesn't know who i am and that saddens me a lot. When I was meeting him intermittently in the 4 months, he cried when he saw me because I was a stranger to him. The disgusting part is the mother doesn't seem to find this sad and is quite content that Adam is comfortable around her dad and brother but not me. I worry how well bond once contact is arranged and worry that if it's not often enough then how will he recognise me.

I've not seen him since a month now and not trying to arrange through her, Her friends or family as they just play around with me. Hence the court app.

Agree with what bill337 said in his last comment.
Move on and forget about your ex, concentrate on the court hearing and once you get your contact you can focus on bonding with your son.
Your son might not know you that well at the moment but that will change when you do get contact, these things take time but I promise you once you get your contact with your son it will be worth it in the end.
Even if your son cries and wants his mum the first few times you do see him, persevere and dont let that get to you or discourage you, it's only natural for your son to be like that as he will be around your ex all the time but he will eventually get to know and bond with you through time.

My son Adam suffered from fractured in june whilst me and ex separated. She didn't tell me about it at the time.

I submitted a subject Access request to the hospital and they have now sent me all the notes. I cannot believe the manipulation and lies my ex has come out with.

She told the hospital there has been domestic violence in the pass with me! What the [censored]. Why would you randomly say that when we werent event together at the time of Adams fracture?

My son was given a cast to wear for 6 weeks. She had an appointment with social worker in those 6 weeks and in the social services notes there's no mention of my sons cast when they describe his appearance. It seems like she took the cast off before her meeting with the social worker.

It seems she had an agenda from the beginning and was making sure she has things documented.

I cannot believe the amount of lies she and her family have sprouted for the past 6 months.