[Solved] False Allegations

Hi Justbeingdad.

My ex still tries to give me grief and make life difficult but I have completely cut her out of my life, I do not attempt in any way shape or form try to reason with her, contact her etc. I have tried co parenting and she would harass me to get back with her when we would spend time with our daughter together and then turn nasty when things didn't go as she had planned.

My best advice to you would be to cut the ex off completely, my ex hates that I do not give her the time of day now or even blink an eyelid to her bull. do not attempt to contact her, co parent etc. If she is anything like my ex it will backfire on you to her advantage, my ex is very calculated and everything she says and does has an ulterior motive behind it and people like that are extremely dangerous.
Deal with things through court and show them that you are a good father and dont get involved in your ex partners games. If she is anything like my ex then she will do everything in her power to screw with you, stop contact, use your child as a weapon, make false allegations against you etc and no matter how much you try to make things work, unfortunately co parenting will never be possible with some people. I have now realised this is the case with my ex and so now I ignore her and do not acknowledge or even make eye contact when I do see her at court and have completely erased her from my life. I feel so much better for it as her bullshit no longer gets to me, you should get yourself out with family, friends etc or even go on a few dates and live your life and forget about your ex and deal with everything through lawyers/court and focus on seeing your child only.

Thanks bud,

It seems with my ex that everything is tic for tac and she needs to the one controlling what happens. It's dangerous. Completely ignores my text even when it's purely about my little one.

No worries.

My ex is exactly the same with a [censored] for tat mentality and also very controlling, my ex is slowly losing control since I no longer communicate with her and things have went through court and although it has been a slow process I now have my child staying over nights. I would maybe try and refrain from sending your ex text messages and if you do send texts keep it specifically about your child, do not let the conversation stray and do not say anything that could be twisted or perceived as harassing or threatening as she could then call the police and try claim that you are harassing her and have you arrested. This is the sort of thing my ex would do hence why I refuse to deal with her directly or have any form of contact with her at all now as she would only use it to her advantage and attempt to sabotage future contact.

Thanks again.

Yep I've made my decision not to contact even if it's for my child. I've sent messages (less than 10 in a month) strictly about my child, only to be ignored so there's absolutely no point in continuing. . It does no good to me and i believe she sees this as her taking control especially when I continue despite receiving no response.

I don't want to go through any of her friends or her family as they are all the same as her. They're her puppets and they respond with whatever she tells them to and are unhelpful and unreasonable.

I like to refer to the puppets as flying monkeys, look up the term "flying monkey" this rings true in my situation dealing with the ex.

Kids pick up on things at an early age and are very observant so another thing I would avoid is bad mouthing your ex etc when ever your child is with you. Once you have contact make it about you and your child and also show them how great a dad you are and give them the love and attention they need and your child will grow up with a different view of you to the poisonous views of many a bitter and vindictive ex.

I hope you get to see your child and like I previously mentioned, try and avoid communicating with your ex if she is anything like mines is and show the courts you are a good father and want to spend the time with your child and hopefully everything will work out for you in the end like it is starting to turn out for me now.