[Solved] False Allegations

You’re right on both counts, at some point you have to stand up and challenge her behaviour, or accept that it will always be that way... her behaviour is a method of control and possibly narcissistic, as she has employed the same tactics with all the other fathers too.

The courts do have adequate powers, from community service right through to changing who the child lives with... personally I feel that transferral of residence, suspended unless the order is breached would be the most effective way to bring these parents into line.

Hopefully you can get this sorted sooner rather than later, although I suspect you will always have problems in your dealings with her, due to the type of person she is. Children are far more resilient than we give them credit for, so hang in there.

All the best

Hi Mojo.

Sorry I haven't been on lately to reply, I've been busy and haven't been online in the last couple of weeks.

The trial was today, I sent you a PM to let you know how things went. I was advised by my lawyer not to go down the route of attacking my ex partners character in court as the PF would have used the previous domestic conviction to further tarnish me in front of the judge at trial and would have used that to their full advantage making things look worse than it was since it was a breach of the peace.

yes thats true. in my court process, barrister always tells me, we are not going to tell the court that ex is a bad mother. apparently its frowned upon. it is unfair when babies are being used as weapons, and you have to try and be polite about it. same thing when dealing with cafcass, bad-mouthing the ex is a big no no.

Not quite what you wanted, it’s frustrating that your hands were tied because of the beach of the peace case against you and the previous conviction.

What’s your next step?

Not quite what you wanted, it’s frustrating that your hands were tied because of the beach of the peace case against you and the previous conviction.

What’s your next step?

I have to attend another child welfare hearing in a few days time so I'm hoping that it doesn't have much of an impact on that, the lawyer did say it really should have any real impact but then again he specialises in criminal law not family.
Obviously things didn't go as I would have liked but the ex was also going for a non harassment order and it was rejected so I guess that's always a plus as it would have just been tool for her to use against me and a another hurdle to go through with the family court if she succeeded.
I guess my next step at the moment is to just try and give the ex a wide berth and stay well clear although the court hasn't made that easy because of contact arrangements, the next step is a contact centre for pick up and drop off and I'll be making sure to have someone there as a witness from now on and hopefully she will eventually trip herself up somewhere down the line and expose herself for the manipulation and lies I've had to endure for the last couple of years.