[Solved] False Allegations

It's extremely sad to read these messages and how exes use kids to punish the other parent.

In my case, my ex started to reduce my time with my children after I informed her that I was having a child with my partner, my ex actually suggested to my partner that we get together after my ex and i had split up!

It got to the point that I was being accused of being a poor dad, causing the children anguish and depression when all I was doing was being a dad.

I wish I could have taken action sooner but I was worried that my ex would stop access unless I did what she said.

She stopped access recently and now I am starting my next journey through court.

I read lots of good news stories and tips on here and other sites and it really helps get you through the days.

Hello all,

So my ex narcissistic partner has been trying to contact me to talk to her about other stuff and not happy about me going through courts for contact. I ignored all those messages but now she has said my son's not been well lately out of blue!

She's now using my son's health as a way of getting me to respond and react. I feel like she's setting me up for a trap where If I go see him she will try to talk to me about our relationship and I don't want to. Or she will make false allegations and get me in to trouble.

On the other hand if I show I'm not concerned about my son's health then she might use that against me.

My ex has a high need for control and she has been doing all sorts in past week to get me to react but it's not worked. Now she's using my son and I know it's probably not true or not serious. I contacted a mutual person who we both know and asked him to request my ex for my son's doctors details so I can be in contact with the doctor direct rather than go through my ex who's plotting things. He said he will message her but I've not heard from him since. I tried chasing him but he is extremely busy lately so wasn't able to get an update. My ex won't talk to anyone else so it's pointless me trying other people.

I also fear that she may be trying to get me to respond to her texts and emails and then claim harassment then get non mol order for legal aid.

I have cafcass interview coming up and court hearing in months time. So far I've not tried attempting any contact with ex but and this has been working.

What is your advice. I feel if she messages me again about my son's health then I'll call 111 and get them to clinically assess my son by giving ex's number and have the conversation with them recorded.

I'm not willing to visit my ex because she is malicious and I don't trust her anymore. She emotionally abuses as well as psychologically so I don't want to talk to her at all.

hi,

please tell your ex to take child to doctor and leave it at that.

I called 999 instead and got them to call ex. I am fed up of her games and she's good at reeling me in. I feel so abused! I'm exhausted mentally and emotionally

I've now reattempted mediation in a last bid to get this sorted outside of court. Waiting on ex to reply to mediator to see if she's interested or not.

I'm going to keep the court hearing open and if mediation is successful then I can ask a solicitor to turn it in to consent order and take the agreement to court and ask it to be made legally binding.

If mediation fails then I'll have court hearing to fall back on.

I'm a bit worried that if mediation fails then my ex will know what I'll propose in courts anyway and I'd be compromising my position?

What are your thoughts guys?